Top 10 Reasons Why Older Adults Should Not Date 18 Year OldsFrom what I've heard lately, an older adult dating an 18-year-old is actually frowned upon by society. At first I didn't understand but now I kinda do. It isn't really good to date someone that's under half your age plus seven. There wasn't a list like this on here so I decided to make one myself. Sexuality is a pretty touchy subject so I'll try to write this with as much tact as I can. Hopefully this list turns out good and that I make absolutely no mistakes whatsoever.
Know that this is just my opinion. You're free to date who you want, I mean there's no stopping me cause it's a free country. Just be safe, be legal and don't get yourself in trouble, especially with the law.
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They're at a stage where they're finally growing up, but they might not have matured yet. They probably don't know how to pay taxes or drive a car or whatever. Older adults are probably more experienced than them so they need to understand that younger adults still need some time to get fully experienced so they can finally function on their own.
If you're really thinking about dating an 18-year-old who probably has the mentality of a 10-year-old boy then you're in for a lot of bad luck because it's gonna be difficult to talk with that teen because of how immature he/she might be at the time. It's just gonna turn out hard for you.
I'm 16 turning 18 in 2 years time but I'm not planning any future dates yet - Neonco31
Half Your Age Plus Seven is a rule to define the youngest that a romantic interest can be before the relationship is indecent. To compute the oldest one could date without it being socially awkward, simply subtract 7 from one's own age, and multiply by 2.
To compute the acceptable age an otherwise inappropriately matched couple would have to be before they could date, find the difference in their age, multiply by 2, and add 7 to get the age the older partner would have to be.
And remember, always round up when computing the youngest age you can date, and round down for the oldest. You know, just to be on the safe side.
I have never heard of this before now, but it works and sounds about right to me. My best advise is to just date someone who is close in age to yourself.
I've read about this on the net, too. Seems it's very popular - Metal_Treasure
Mainly because they aren't able to consume alcohol (same goes for 20-year-olds as well).
Mainly because the baby might come out with Down syndrome and autism. Nothing too serious I guess but still pretty depressing.
@Aragorn98-It actually differs among people. I know some people aged 18 who had kids with older dudes and they turned out fine. Just wanna point that out there. - DarkMatter1997
Probably not... - EliHbk
I can almost see a few fully-grown adult males reading this who are attracted to little girls, cringing behind their screen... - Britgirl
@Britgirl-Depends on what you mean by that. If you mean physical little girls then I'm not so sure. But mental ones, I completely understand. I'm just saying. - DarkMatter1997
Remember, always keep the Half Your Age Plus Seven Rule in mind.
Especially when the man/woman is old enough to be a parent. - WatcheroftheSkies
You'll look like a pedophile - Neonco31
Most adults probably date teens because they want to feel young again. You don't need to do that. A person doesn't make you feel young. You make yourself feel young. Youth is something you have to find in yourself. But always keep in mind that you should be a kid at heart but still be an adult in your mind. That's what matters the most.
Better alt. dude, come one... There are better ways surely! - EliHbk
For example, they aren't old enough to drink alcohol (like I said before) or get into clubs.
In UK its legal to drink booze from the age of 18. But there are weird age gap relationships out there.
The reason why people think older adults dating 18-year-olds is creepy is because of the assumption that the adult is pursuing the young adolescent specifically because he/she wants to date someone young and nubile, but lacking in experience and maturity. Young adolescents are easier to manipulate and control than older adults and probably have less fully formed expectations of romantic partners, meaning that an experienced guy can probably use a young girl for sex and other favors, without her realizing she's being used.
To anyone who thinks that those aged 18 and over and are physically children, 18 is when your body is fully ready to reproduce (it's where you're biologically an adult). Plus I literally know some porn stars that joined the porn industry when they were just 18 (not that I watch porn anyway. I just figured I'd bring this up). - DarkMatter1997
Mainly because most aged 18 are mentally still kids (and the fact they have the word "teen" in the age name which is mostly associated with children).
Apart from one time my attention was turned to a man in his 20s, I've always been attracted to men my age or older (mostly older) I can't imagine falling for an 18 year old boy (and I can't help but view them as boys) because mentally that's what they still are. They still think like a child and always revert back to their boyish ways however much they think they've grown. Give me a real man over a boy any day. - Britgirl
@Britgirl-I'm personally not too worried about teens being immature and inexperienced because at least we live in the age of the Internet where people are learning things faster. So it would be easier for young people to look up things they need to know in life.
I'm just saying because I'm just trying to sound a little more positive here. That's all. - DarkMatter1997
That's because people your own age might be more mature and experienced than most 18-year-olds. That would sound a lot easier.
The law has condoned some terrible things slavery and this tiny thing called the Holocaust. In India you can marry and have sex with an 8-year-old girl, does that mean it's okay to have sex with girls that young?
There's some 18-year-olds who look like they have the body of a 14-year-old, so it's kinda odd when you think about it. I'm just saying that appearances gotta make a little more sense sometimes (I get don't judge a book by its cover but there are times where looks should matter if you know what I mean. But to each their own 🙂).
For those who don't know what the word means, it means a person who is adult but is not fully adult enough (I consider all people aged 18-20 subadults). This could be bad for older people considering how most subadults aren't legal enough to do other things. - DarkMatter1997
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