Top 10 Reasons Why Older Adults Should Not Date 18 Year OldsFrom what I've heard lately, an older adult dating an 18-year-old is actually frowned upon by society. At first I didn't understand but now I kinda do. It isn't really good to date someone that's under half your age plus seven. There wasn't a list like this on here so I decided to make one myself. Sexuality is a pretty touchy subject so I'll try to write this with as much tact as I can. Hopefully this list turns out good and that I make absolutely no mistakes whatsoever.
Know that this is just my opinion. You're free to date who you want, I mean there's no stopping me cause it's a free country. Just be safe, be legal and don't get yourself in trouble, especially with the law.
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They're at a stage where they're finally growing up, but they might not have matured yet. They probably don't know how to pay taxes or drive a car or whatever. Older adults are probably more experienced than them so they need to understand that younger adults still need some time to get fully experienced so they can finally function on their own.
If you're really thinking about dating an 18-year-old who probably has the mentality of a 10-year-old boy then you're in for a lot of bad luck because it's gonna be difficult to talk with that teen because of how immature he/she might be at the time. It's just gonna turn out hard for you.
I'm 16 turning 18 in 2 years time but I'm not planning any future dates yet - Neonco31
Half Your Age Plus Seven is a rule to define the youngest that a romantic interest can be before the relationship is indecent. To compute the oldest one could date without it being socially awkward, simply subtract 7 from one's own age, and multiply by 2.
To compute the acceptable age an otherwise inappropriately matched couple would have to be before they could date, find the difference in their age, multiply by 2, and add 7 to get the age the older partner would have to be.
And remember, always round up when computing the youngest age you can date, and round down for the oldest. You know, just to be on the safe side.
I have never heard of this before now, but it works and sounds about right to me. My best advise is to just date someone who is close in age to yourself.
I've read about this on the net, too. Seems it's very popular - Metal_Treasure
They may be legal adults but biologically and mentally they are still adolescents.
Mainly because they aren't able to consume alcohol (same goes for 20-year-olds as well).
Teen pregnancy, especially the ones with no husbands at all, is discusting!
Mainly because the baby might come out with Down syndrome and autism. Nothing too serious I guess but still pretty depressing.
I can almost see a few fully-grown adult males reading this who are attracted to little girls, cringing behind their screen... - Britgirl
I was referring to fully-grown adult males who are physically attracted to girls younger than 18. But your opinion is your and I respect that. - Britgirl
Remember, always keep the Half Your Age Plus Seven Rule in mind.
Especially when the man/woman is old enough to be a parent. - WatcheroftheSkies
You'll look like a pedophile - Neonco31
Most adults probably date teens because they want to feel young again. You don't need to do that. A person doesn't make you feel young. You make yourself feel young. Youth is something you have to find in yourself. But always keep in mind that you should be a kid at heart but still be an adult in your mind. That's what matters the most.
Better alt. dude, come one... There are better ways surely!
For example, they aren't old enough to drink alcohol (like I said before) or get into clubs.
In UK its legal to drink booze from the age of 18. But there are weird age gap relationships out there.
Mainly because most aged 18 are mentally still kids (and the fact they have the word "teen" in the age name which is mostly associated with children).
The reason why people think older adults dating 18-year-olds is creepy is because of the assumption that the adult is pursuing the young adolescent specifically because he/she wants to date someone young and nubile, but lacking in experience and maturity. Young adolescents are easier to manipulate and control than older adults and probably have less fully formed expectations of romantic partners, meaning that an experienced guy can probably use a young girl for sex and other favors, without her realizing she's being used.
The law has condoned some terrible things slavery and this tiny thing called the Holocaust. In India you can marry and have sex with an 8-year-old girl, does that mean it's okay to have sex with girls that young?
India is living in the cavemen times e.g. when there was no under age.
Apart from one time my attention was turned to a man in his 20s, I've always been attracted to men my age or older (mostly older) I can't imagine falling for an 18 year old boy (and I can't help but view them as boys) because mentally that's what they still are. They still think like a child and always revert back to their boyish ways however much they think they've grown. Give me a real man over a boy any day. - Britgirl
@Britgirl-I mainly matured at 18 because I knew I had to keep a good reputation on this site and in real life. It's really important that we should all strive to keep good reputations.
That and I knew I was an adult so I had to start acting like one. And don't worry, I'm not offended by your words.
That's because people your own age might be more mature and experienced than most 18-year-olds. That would sound a lot easier.
There's some 18-year-olds who look like they have the body of a 14-year-old, so it's kinda odd when you think about it. I'm just saying that appearances gotta make a little more sense sometimes (I get don't judge a book by its cover but there are times where looks should matter if you know what I mean. But to each their own 🙂).