Top 10 Things Grown Adults Should Know If They're Going to Date 18-year-Olds

DarkMatter1997
Lately I've seen older people dating 18-year-olds. My thoughts? I'm honestly very mixed about it. I get that they're legal and all but they're still not legal enough or fully developed (and what I mean by fully developed is that they're not old enough to drink. Sure they're old enough to have sex but not consume alcohol. The drinking age is 21+). And I am aware that people don't really approve but I've decided to make a list of things that older adults should know before they date someone as young as 18 (just a more helpful list that will hopefully make things a lot better if you know what I mean).

I'm personally not dating anyone (and I don't ever plan to because you don't necessarily need a girlfriend in order to be happy) but I figured I try to offer a little dating advice for some people out there. I mainly made this list because 18 is when you physically become an adult so it would at least make sense to call them adults. But mentally they're not so it would be very important to help them out with experience (that and I also heard online that an 18-year-old dating an underage teen is not pedophilia even though in reality is IS considering how underage teens are not ready for reproduction with adults. I'm just saying that we don't want 18-year-olds to band underage teens that's all).

The Top Ten

1 Know that the 18-year-old is at a completely different stage of his/her life

I had to come back to this site to state this. And it's gonna be a pretty long comment just to let you all know. It doesn't have a whole lot to do with this list but it's some important stuff that I figured I'd bring up.

Almost everyone has different rules as to what's a kid and what's not. People have different definitions as to what an adolescent is. My personal definition is someone aged 10-20 (which I got from SlideShare.net). The World Health Organization defines an adolescent as someone aged 10-19. The Iowa Department of Public Health defines one as aged 10-24. Even some studies today state that adolescence continues until age 25 which is when the human brain finally stops developing (some even say it's to stop kids from rushing into adulthood). The reason I personally say it's 20 is because that's when you're still developing. You're still not old enough to drink or to do other different things. Adolescent doesn't mean teenager. It means someone who's developing into an ...more

They're probably growing up so you should at least use some of your experience to help them out. That way they can try to get a bit of experience for once (and it's done a lot easier now because of the Internet, where you can learn things faster now). - DarkMatter1997

2 Know that an 18-year-old is still not legal enough to do other things

Drink, enter casinos, rent a car, etc. Not even those aged 20 are able to do that either (and yet all the hypocrites state that 20 is a better age to date despite how you're still not legal enough yet). - DarkMatter1997

3 Understand half-your-age-plus-seven

For example, an 18-year-old's range would be 16-22 (though I don't encourage that you date someone who's 16). A 19-year-old's range is 16.5-24 (again I don't encourage that you date a 16-year-old). Make sure you're the right age range to be dating someone so young. - DarkMatter1997

4 Give the 18-year-old as much knowledge and experience as possible

Aragorn98 stated in his profile that they should give the teens a lot of experience. That should be true because you're at least helping out a person with certain things. - DarkMatter1997

5 Do not exploit the teen

Don't use him/her for your own selfish needs. It's just gonna get you more hate and make you look more like a douchebag creep. - DarkMatter1997

6 Make sure you're not abusive toward the teen

Enough said. - DarkMatter1997

7 Like them for their personalities instead of their bodies

I think this applies to anyone of any age. Personality is what matters the most, not looks. If you literally like a girl for her body then that's just sad because you wouldn't know if she's actually a decent person or not. True beauty comes from within. - DarkMatter1997

8 Don't date them while they're still in high school

Now that's really weird because you're literally dating them while they're in a place full of children. You really don't want people to think you're some kind of pedophile (it would be best to date them while they're in college instead). - DarkMatter1997

9 Make sure it's okay with their parents

They might agree, they might not. If not then you'll just have to find another person. - DarkMatter1997

10 Know that you can't please everyone

There's always gonna be people who will usually criticize you if you're in an age gap. You can't please everyone because it's literally impossible to (just go with what you think sounds best and make sure you're not causing any trouble at all). - DarkMatter1997

The Contenders

11 Tell them that if they're adults then they're gonna have to start thinking like adults
12 Be aware that they're subadults

A subadult is someone who has passed through the juvenile period but has not yet attained typical adult characteristics. I personally consider all people aged 18-20 subadults so if you're going to date them then be serious about it because they're still developing. - DarkMatter1997

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