Top Ten Things Parents Need to Stop Doing

Hey parents or soon to be parents reading this, I'm a 13 year old so you probably won't listen to me but you should. I'm trying to help you be better and DON'T do these to your children.

The Top Ten Things Parents Need to Stop Doing

1 Abusing their children

Depends on what is abuse. Spanking for things like say, physically bullying someone isn't abuse but say, bashing their heads against the wall for small things like getting an average grade, now that's abuse. - DarkBoi-X

Depends on what you may consider as "abuse". Cause a lot of the time when parents discipline their children, children take it the wrong way thinking it's abuse & starts to build a growing hatred towards their parents. - Joeljohns249

Child abuse is wrong in all ways. The worst part abt child abuse is that someone's abusing their own child. Their blood. Their FAMILY. It's so screwed up that people who are supposed to love you more than anything abuse children.

I think like some people. Um, like they hit their kid, but I don't think it's bad. But if use something like a cable it's bad, my mother uses her hand. - Luckys

2 Trying to control their children's life

Only after you reach adulthood. If you're still a minor, then your parents do need a partial control over your lives. If children are let go off completely without any guidance saying it's "their life", then they most probably won't end up in the right place. - Joeljohns249

Let them wear what they want or listen to what music they want. - DarkBoi-X

I agree with this. Here a story for y'all, My teachers says, "You guys need free time and not just work time.", but there is one problem... PARENTS. My parents make me study all day! Also, WHAT PARENT MAKES ME CLEAN UP AFTER THEM, LIKE I'M AM NO BUTLER! - xx_Temper_xx

Children need proper boundaries to mature properly. - Archived

3 Spanking children

Ikr!? It needs to stop! I'm sick of kids being treated this way just because they don't want to do something you want them to do. Parents need to learn that beating your child is child abuse. Parents also need to know that not everything has to go their way just because they are the adults.

Spanking is necessary. After having years of that, I'm glad I did.

No. Spanking is necessary in some cases and this coming from someone who was spanked - DarkBoi-X

Disagree again. Like Darkboi said, sometimes kids do need a good old spanking or some sort of mild corporal punishment for discipline. But then again, it all depends on the infraction of the offense your child did. However I agree that corporal punishment shouldn't cross any borders to the point that it constitutes for abuse. - Joeljohns249

4 Dictating career choices

Well, one hand it might sound like a moral thing to not force your kids career choices. But on the other hand, that doesn't mean that you should completely let go off your kids letting them do whatever they want saying it's their life. If your child wants to be a construction worker or some other menial job, it's better to counsel your child to consider other career choices possibly a better one. - Joeljohns249

I don't agree with you. Parents have a right to choose what their children should do when they reach legal age. First, they should be out of the house. Next, they should become medical workers, no matter what they whine about. That's enough money to support my life, too, and that's all I ask. - likus

Just let them do what they want with their life. Why does it matter to you anyway?


It’s fine if they want to offer suggestions but at the end of the day the kids should decide what they want to do - Randomator

5 Putting pressure on their children

Please try not to do this. A little bit of pressure is okay to motivate your children but I can say from experience that a ton of parental pressure is not healthy. - Atham

Parental pressure is just as bad as peer pressure - DarkBoi-X

Depends on the context. If it's related to studies & stuff like that, a little push is always needed in order to guide & motivate you to the right direction - Joeljohns249

Dear Asian parents, please stop forcing us to be doctors, lawyers, and engineers. It may not be the right career choice for us. Also please accept A- and B+ grades. They are excellent. Sincerely, every Asian child born in America.

6 Let their kids smoke/vape

Sorry, but your lungs will be a bit damaged if you do that. Sure, it may relax you, but there are consequences that can remain on your lungs. - yamionthetrap

It's irresponsible and will cause your child to have lung issues later on in life.

Kids will be kids, it is hard to stop them from doing what they want to do - germshep24

A biology textbook in my country even encouraged smoking by saying it is 'relaxing' and 'helps you digest'. Scandalous! - Alkadikce

7 Telling children what music to listen to

It's obvious as to why parents are concerned about what kind of music their children are listening to. If music lyrics are taken so seriously more than the musician intended to, it can be a bad influence on children. So the basic thing that parents need to teach their kids is that they can listen to whatever music they want to, but just don't take every song lyric so seriously. Like if a Cannibal Corpse song has lyrics referencing to necrophilia, that doesn't mean you should go out to the mortuary molesting dead bodies, nor do the musicians who made the song want you to. They are all made with entertainment & humor in heart. - Joeljohns249

Let your kids decide what kind of they music they want to listen to. - Userguy44

... No. Music is a bad influence in general and can give children ideas. I've failed as a parent if my child learns what sex is before the age of 21. Disgusting. Music, I dare say, is most definitely NOT tolerated in my household. - likus

Strongly agree here. - DarkBoi-X

It's their ears not yours. Everyone swears, Sex is a normal part of life, and people can sing abt whatever they want.

What you said applies to teenagers maybe, but I don't get why a 7-year-old's parents should let him/her watch sex songs with videos where men are sleeping with two women. - Alkadikce

8 Take away children's electronics

Strongly disagree. If taking away your electronics brings you so much pressure & anxiety even at such a young age, that only goes off to show how much you are addicted to that object. - Joeljohns249

Well if they act bad, then you have to. - DarkBoi-X

I kind of disagree, I don't think parents should take away a kid's phone, but something like a laptop or tablet can get taken away. You can use for phone for emergencies. - Luckys

Trust me, it impacts your children negatively. It impacts me negatively pretty much. It doesn't work at all. It just makes things worse and puts pressure on your children and gives them anxiety.

9 Giving little kids cell phones

I disagree. I especially disagree with @Archived. Children should get a phone before they get to middle school, kids shouldn't be monitored at all times. - Luckys

If you don't monitor what your kids are doing, they could go down the road of addiction and be impossible to control. I've dealt with it before, and it's not fun. - Archived

They don't need it young. I suggest you wait until they're 9.

My mom said she will give me my phone when I'm 15 turns out I got it when I was 9 lol. - XxembermasterxX

Kids really don't need phones until they're like 13, although id probably wait until 14 or 15 for my kid. I know it'd suck for the kid but I'm glad I didn't get one very young because I know if I did then I would have turned out a lot worse - xEliHbkx

10 Let children dress how they want

Nope. You shouldn't let your child dress like Nicky Minaj from Anaconda exposing everything even if they want to. It's bad enough sexual harassment cases & pedophiles are increasing number. Now you want to attract pedos towards your child? - Joeljohns249

I don't even understand what are people expecting with this kind of clothing. They probably want to seek attention, but when they get it, they aren't happy about that. - Alkadikce

If it's showing their skins, then no. Not to kids in 8-12 years old. Pedophiles will increases the chances of sexual harassment to them. Do that at the start of 17-23 years old. - yamionthetrap

Let your kids express themselves, just don't let them go out wearing skimpy stuff or needlessly offensive stuff, that's just not smart - xEliHbkx

That's most utterly disgusting. All body parts should be covered- neck, hands, feet. Hair cut short. I don't want boys looking at my daughter. - likus

My mom thinks wearing all black is satanic *face-palm* - XxembermasterxX

The Contenders

11 Spoiling children

My relatives must learn how to say "no" whenever my little cousins tell them to buy stuff for them

Should be top 3 easily. Spoiling children just teaches them that they can get whatever they want - Randomator

Easily the worst. This whole outrage over so called "overparenting" is nuts when "overparenting" creates much better people than under parenting does. If you spoil your kid and let them control you, it will not turn out great. This list was made by little kids I bet. The only legitimate addition on here is number 1, Abusing children, which is always horrible no matter how you parent your offspring. - MattAffterburner

You still liked my quote. I am not trying to be mature. Overprotective parents aren't good, but most of the items on this list are not applying to overprotective parents, but rather moderate parents. For example, Taking away electronics I probably the stupidest item on this list, as if a father will not punish his children for doing wrong, than how does that child know what is wrong and why they can't do it? Another example, putting pressure on children, is a natural part of life, not just parenting. Teachers put pressure on students, bosses put pressure on workers, coaches put pressure on whom they are coaching. Pressure makes success more likely, and makes your brain work more fervently. If you cannot handle pressure from a parent, you will not be able to handle the pressure the world puts on you to do well.
Besides, your comment doesn't make any sense. You haven't experienced high school yet, or probably even a rigorous school. Please, if you haven't parented, even a little ...more - MattAffterburner

This is easily top-3 material for this list - Joeljohns249

12 Not accepting their children's sexuality

my parents were pretty much like "ok then" about my asexuality, but - starryrcad

I agree that parents should accept their kids' sexuality whether they are gay or straight. But if they want to go to extremes like change their gender for example, that's an entire different conversation & no sudden decisions should be taken without long consideration - Joeljohns249

Thankfully my parents accept me for being Bi though it took a while for them to come around. - Loudhouserules

They should accept it but shouldn’t force them to be straight or LGBT - Randomator

13 Drinking

Agreed. And not just minors, I don't think even college kids should be allowed to drink - Joeljohns249

Yep, there is an age limit. - Userguy44

14 Go to school to spy on them

My school has cameras where parents can see what's going on through their websites. - XxembermasterxX

Uhhh who does this?

15 Being overprotective

Overprotective parents are the reason why I go to Incognito mode. - XxembermasterxX

Tell that to my mom!

dear lord yes - starryrcad

Should be top 5. It’s fine to protect your kids but as they get older you gotta nudge them a bit. “A baby bird can’t learn to fly if it never leaves the nest.” - Randomator

16 Stop reproducing

For the ones who already had kids, you would bring more evil. By the way, if you are saying legendary bands like Slayer and Bring Me The Horizon should be banned, maybe YOU should be banned from living, you inconsiderate monstrosities!

What if they are very old though? Eh?

17 Letting children play mature video games

my parents don't allow me to play these, but I rebel. I played gta once on our shared ipad when we were young so thanks dad - starryrcad

Did you see what happened when they let kids to 12 or 13 years old playing these games? Trust me, you don't want to know. - yamionthetrap

No I can play whatever I want deal with it. - XxembermasterxX

18 Telling children the truth

Well, we talk about children! They need to learn and know the truth at their age. - Userguy44

They should be open to the truth about certain things as they begin puberty. - Archived

Santa Claus doesn't exist.

19 Demanding Grandchildren

Maybe I don't want to have kids, retards.

I want kids - Luckys

20 Lying

Please stop lying. - XtheXlmao

21 Thrusting their babies in other people's faces

Weird wording.

22 Yelling at them for doing something wrong.

Sometimes they need a good yelling at. Not over something minor but if they really did something horrible you should.

So you can't yell at your kids but you can at your siblings? - Alkadikce

Nah they should. - Luckys


23 Telling them when to date

Well they can date whenever they want as long as they are in middle school at least - Randomator

There is a hook:

13 years old? That has to wait. You're still a minor at that age.

16 & 17 years old? That is acceptable, but be wary. - yamionthetrap

Depends on the age, and being real with you, if you're 13 and your parents say you shouldn't be dating, they probably do have a point. But if you're like 16 or 17 and are going out with a person from your school, that's another story. - xEliHbkx

Okay, let kids date then. Cool idea wow... - Userguy44

24 Telling off people for scolding someone else’s children
25 Not allowing their children to hang out with certain people for stupid reasons

Are we talking about children or teenagers? - Userguy44

26 Being anti-vaxxers

Anti Vaxxers should get executed - DarkBoi-X

If you are, I don’t see you being a parent for long. - Archived

27 Being hypocritical

"Do. Not. Cry." Said as a parent is yelling; thus indicating THEY'RE allowed to express negative emotions but the child can't.

Like saying "don't use that tone with me" in the very tone of voice they don't want you to use.

28 Showing embarrassing baby photos to people without their children's consent

Putting them on birthday cakes also counts.
- TheDuttyGyal

My parents don’t really show me or my siblings baby photos to anyone other then close family and, I don’t really mind if I do. Now if we’re talking about things SIBLINGS (me) need to stop doing, then that’s a whole nother story. Tee Hee 😈 - oceanbreezetheawesomewarrior

29 Neglecting their children

Lots of children and teenagers complain about their parents not giving enough freedom, but the opposite is also very common when parents have hardly any time for them and are always obsessed with something else so no close relationship can be established between them. - Alkadikce

30 Listening to 13-year olds

Whoever added this is mad that my list is making good points and is extending my rep here and theirs aren't

I never said kids should be spoiled.
Also, taking electronics away doesn't teach them anything other than their parents take away their stuff because they're bored and they want to do something other than hit their child as a punishment. And burying your face in a book isn't good for a child's social life either. Which is basically what every parent wants. Maybe the parent should teach the child what not to do instead of being a lazy ass and taking their crap.
Minor pressure can also turn into major pressure really quickly. Trust me. I've been in that position before.

My mom listens to me and nothing bad ever happens. - XxembermasterxX

31 Demanding they get married

Mom: Don't date but you must get married. - XxembermasterxX

32 Do not let them go out to play

They need to be active for as long as they can be. - Archived

33 Blaming on older siblings for something that the younger sibling did

Yep as an older sibling I can relate - Randomator


34 Letting children use their phones freely

It makes way for getting ideas. Disgusting. This is an accurate point! - likus

35 Telling their kids to go to church

I’m agnostic. My kids wouldn’t have that to worry about. - Archived

36 Being Slutty

No way. That is bad influence for a parent to do that for a kid. - yamionthetrap

A slutty parent is a bad influence as it will make the child think it's okay to do the same at a young age. - XxembermasterxX

37 Deleting their kids social media because it’s not good enough

A lot of parents on the internet are so mean - Ar0nT0pTeNz05

38 Forcing their kids to get straight As in school

Not everyone is a genius

39 Being ageist
40 Allow a school to help "parent" their children
41 Allowing small children to run around places unattended.
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