Top Ten Best Things to Say to Someone Who is Depressed

As someone who has been depressed throughout the years and knows what it's like to feel overwhelmed by this fog of sadness, this coat of dread, here are some encouraging words that I've gotten that have helped me out and taught me well. I may share some of my own words as well

Words can be very powerful, and it's a power we as people are often oblivious to. Being able to use your words to help the minds of others is a great thing we can do but we forget that we can also abuse it to harm others as well.

So let's try to use our words to help, to rebuild, and to encourage. Kindness is the best way to help the ones you care get through darker times and kind words speak loudest in times of silent sadness. They are much more clear to us in moments of grief and pain. And when a friend is in need of some kind words, don't be afraid to share yours. Give their grey lives a bit more color as they say.

The Top Ten Best Things to Say to Someone Who is Depressed

1 If you ever need just someone to talk to, I'm here for you.

Very kind.

I’m this type of friend even though I have depression, I still care about other people - Honeyreis

Very caring. - Userguy44

If you really care for someone, then being there is a must. You don't know just how much a little conversation can help out. Be there for each other, help those who are in need. Depression is weaker, the more who stand against it. - cjWriter1997

2 If you ever feel like you don't mean anything, just know that's a lie. You mean a lot to me.

This is something I need to hear from people when I'm feeling worthless, like I'm not good enough for anyone. To feel like you matter to someone you know is to feel like you matter. - PositronWildhawk

Meaning is an obscure concept, but it's also a very tangible one. To say you have meaning is to make meaning. We are only meaningless because we say we are. So don't let that be as such. Give yourself your own meaning as they say. - cjWriter1997

3 You're a good person, you may not realize it now but it's true.

It is said, the often kindest people are the ones who struggled the most. As unfortunate as it may sound, pain brings wisdom. We learn the best through times the worst. - cjWriter1997

4 Don't fear about what others think of you, most of the time they are more preoccupied with themselves.

Let's say you've done something you think is embarrassing, the people who saw it won't think about that for long. People have so much going on in their lives that they forget about stuff pretty fast. - RogerMcBaloney

To quote Eleanor Roosevelt
"You wouldn't worry so much about what other people think of you if you realized how seldom they do." - cjWriter1997

5 You have a great life ahead of you.

Everybody has a great life ahead of them. You make your own future. - RogerMcBaloney

Sometimes I feel like there's no opportunity, like I blew everything or never had a chance to begin with. That's depression talking, and it only talks in negatives. Rationality has gone out the window. Looking at it with a clear mind, and nothing is as black and white as it seems. There is light at the end of the tunnel, no matter how convoluted that path is. - PositronWildhawk

6 Distraction is key. Learn to outsmart your own mind by distracting it from it's own depression.

In high school, there was always one kid always making me feel bad and angry. Almost every day, I came out of school that way, but on the bus, I listened to my favorite music (rock and metal) and It helped to get rid of all the hate. When I got home, I spent 2 or 3 hours playing video games. It really helped me hold to it together. - RogerMcBaloney

Whether it's listening to music, watching your favorite show, playing video games, whatever works for you.
The more you distract your mind with things that you love, the less often your depression gets the best of you. - cjWriter1997

Indeed! think depression as an illusion and find the key just the inner core the soft one then at a penetrable,very short amount of time then you'll shatter it and it will be vanished.p.s first think depression as an mirror. - Kevinsidis

7 Times are dark now, but I see a happy soul awaiting for you in the future.

That is true in a very inspiring way.

Life has it's ups and downs. Even through the darkest of times, eventually light will appear at the end of the tunnel. Stay strong and keep going, you can make it! - cjWriter1997

8 It's not wrong to feel depressed. It's just an emotion, one that we have all felt. Don't let the naysayers tell you otherwise.

We are all people, all with complex emotions. Just because you feel a certain way more often doesn't make you any less of human being. - cjWriter1997

9 You are kind, smart, beautiful and everything good.

This is a very good sentence! - Userguy44

Simply giving complements to someone who is feeling down can show to them that you care enough to help them feel better. Yeah, they're simple complements but they are nice to hear from someone else every now and then and in the end, the simplest of things tend to matter the most. - cjWriter1997

10 I love it when you laugh, you should laugh more

They say laughter is often the most effective medicine. A good laugh can bring someone's mood up very well. If you don't know what to say sometimes, just tell them a joke. Make them laugh, it's always a good option. - cjWriter1997

On the Worst Things To Say list:
"Hey! Wanna hang out? "

... you can't really hear them laugh if you don't hangout with them to be honest - mattstat716

Not sure what you're implying, the worst things to say list doesn't necessarily correspond to my list. This is more of advice for when you are already around someone who is feeling down or depressed. - cjWriter1997

The Contenders

11 I love you, and I will always be by your side.
12 You are sad over nothing

That was way to strict/mean/tough love!

This is one of the worst things you can say to a person with depression. It makes them feel as if their own emotions and struggles are invalid, even if they feel like they are using every ounce of their willpower to simply make it through each day. You may view them as weak and mopey over nothing, but I see them as strong for facing their internal demons day after day and somehow finding the strength to continue moving forward, even though it is an extremely daunting task for them. Instead of telling them that they don't have a valid reason for being depressed, try telling them that you care about them and that you are here for them, even if you may not understand their feelings. - Atham

I told this depressed guy that he has nothing to worry about and then the next day he was himself!

13 You can and WILL survive this. When it’s all over I’ll still be here and so will you.
14 You are still loved and I bet dinner is still waiting for you
15 How do you feel?
16 God loves you!
17 I will get help for you
18 Sorry you feel that way
19 My apologies
20 Give me a hug
21 We are done having these suicidal thoughts
22 Please stay alive
23 Love you, sweetheart
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