10 Ways to Cope When Bad Things Happen

Celestius

The Top Ten

1 Detach yourself emotionally

Most of the emotions that grow out of negative situations are negative. When you refuse to be engaged emotionally, the situation becomes emotionally neutral. That means that you can deal with it rationally instead of reacting to it emotionally. This also changes how the experience is recorded in your memory and nervous system.

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2 Forget about asking why

You can ask why later, for now focus on asking, "how do I meet this challenge? " Your mind loves to solve problems. By asking "how" you are telling your mind that there is a solution to be found. It will immediately go to work looking for the solution. This keeps your focus on creating a positive outcome.

- Celestius

3 Look for the value

There is almost always some value in challenging situations. I learned how to fix my blog theme. If there is a next time I'll be able to do it in less than an hour. I also learned that DLGuard has excellent customer service. I also took some additional security steps to help lessen the chances of this happening again.
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4 Ask for help

We can't always get ourselves out of a mess. Don't be afraid to ask those who are more knowledgeable for help or direction. Most of the time they are glad to help or at least point you in the right direction. I am not the most tech savvy guy around, so when I need help, I ask. The willingness of others to lend assistance is heartwarming.

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5 Remember, it's temporary

One way or another, you will get through it. Every situation has a conclusion. Even if it's not the conclusion you wanted, at least it will be over and you can start from there. If you have to rebuild some aspect of your life, you will probably do it better and faster than you did the last time. - Celestius

6 As long as you're at it, upgrade

As it turns out, I was due for an upgrade on my blog theme and my version of DLGuard. Because time was a factor, I couldn't do those upgrades during the repair, but I am doing them now. So, the end result will put me ahead of where I was. That means I have benefited from the experience.
- Celestius

7 Role play

This is an effective tactic for removing yourself emotionally from a frustrating challenge. Pretend that you have been called in to handle the situation because of you calm and logical demeanor. The person facing the challenge needs someone who is cool and capable, and that's why you are there - Celestius

8 Laugh your way through it

Sometimes things get so ridiculous that it's almost laughable. When that happens, go ahead and laugh. When you laugh at a stressful situation it provides a healthy outlet for your emotions. Laughter is a much better way to release that emotional stress than anger is.

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9 Take rescue remedy

Maybe you've never heard of Rescue Remedy, let me tell you this is some good stuff. It's a flower remedy developed by Dr. Edward Bach. Flower remedies work on a very subtle level to help with a wide array of emotional issues. As you can tell from the name, Rescue Remedy is there to rescue you during periods of emotional stress.
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10 Turn off all media, esp. the TV

Talk about heaping more despair and misery on your life while attempting to regain your balance. -

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11 Don't take it personal

Sometimes it can feel like you have been singled out to receive more than your share of hardships. Everybody faces more than enough challenges. The universe has not conspired against you. To my knowledge, I haven't done anything to provoke a hacker to attack my site and who ever did it probably has no idea who I am. Sometimes bad stuff just happens. Taking things personally just leads to excuses and blame and a whole host of other worthless thoughts and emotions. Don't even go there, just get past it and move on.

- Celestius

12 Listen to music

Right now, as I type this, I'm playing "Fallen" by Electus. I was stressed out of my mind until I hit play. - PositronWildhawk

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