Worst Things About Being the Oldest Sibling

Being the oldest sibling is HORRIBLE. If you are not the oldest, you'll see why. If you are the oldest, you will understand.

The Top Ten

1 Just because he/she's younger, he/she's innocent

That's BS. I get that when the younger sibling is little, they need special attention and don't know much. But when they get older, the older and younger sibling should have equal rights.

It's true! My sister is five and she knows she can do whatever she wants to me because she's four. Like for example, I'm playing on my tablet, and she runs in, snatched it out of my hand, and runs to mom. When I go to get it she says "MOMMY! HE WONT SHARE! " so I have to let her use it. But if I try to play with her she won't let me. And then dad tells at me because I supposedly, "don't share." When he is RIGHT THERE, IN THE ROOM WITH US! And if my parents tell her to give my tablet back, she fake cries (obvious to me, not to my parents) until she gets her way.

Ugh, my little sister is SO ANNOYING FOR THIS! I also have a little brother, but we're only a year apart so...anyways, back to my sister. I was playing Mario Kart one time with her, and I kept winning. Then she runs upstairs and pretends to cry and says "Mommy! My sister won't let me win at Mario Kart and that hurts my feelings! " And of course, I get in trouble.

My sis is 8 and the "she doesn't know any better" excuse is still being used. Kill me. - SpyroZap99

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2 Your parents use you as the "test dummy" for things

I bet if my parents were inventors, and they needed a test assistant, that would be me. It's always me. - SpyroZap99

€Well Jane,we just figured out CYANDIDE is poisonous! We’re very grateful to know the obvious! Although our oldest child died,we only care about the youngest! ”

3 They learn how to be a proper parent for the younger siblings, but are still learning from you

I don't see a big deal out of these. I'm the oldest sibling but I don't give a crap. - bigmike137

4 They get scared of milestones (puberty, graduation, moving out, etc.) with their oldest child, but know what to expect for the younger siblings

My mom is RIDICULOUSLY overprotective of me. My sister is 20 and they allowed her to go places unsupervised SINCE SHE WAS LIKE 16. I am 26 and I AM STILL NOT ALLOWED TO LEAVE THE HOUSE UNSUPERVISED.

I love my parents and all, but I hate it whenever it seems like they put more pressure on me in terms of growing up and going to college more than my sister, who is 10 months younger than me. - ModernSpongeBobSucks

This means that you get micromanaged, but your sibling doesn't when he/she gets to your age - Kaboom

5 Your stuff isn't treated as yours

My dad constantly touches my stuff, sometimes WHILE HIS HANDS ARE WET. He never touches my sister's stuff.

First off, I'm the second oldest sibling, but mentally the oldest. I guess I'm lucky I have my own room, but my FOUR siblings are constantly tossing their garbage in my room, and then lying about it. Also, my six year old brother kicks me in the stomach. Mom doesn't give a crap. I call him mean. Suddenly I'm the big stupid jerk. GOSH

I have to willingly let anyone else in my family use my things, even what I bought with my money. My brother gets to keep his stuff, and even OTHER PEOPLE'S STUFF to himself. - Kaboom

I have my own room, but my little sister barges in every day for 10 minutes to pick out clothes. If I go in her room, for bras, underwear, pajamas, or whatever she will scream! My grandma got me a doll when I was little, my sister saw it one day and took it, put it in her room, and officialy made it hers. If I go in her room and lay my hands on it, she screams, even though it's mine.

6 You pay for all damages to your things, but your sibling doesn't

If my brother smashes my tablet in front of my mom, I pay for it. If my mom breaks my tablet, I pay for it. If my brother puts his tablet on a drone, flies to 2,000 feet, then "accidentally" turns the drone off, my mom pays for the tablet, the drone, and damages from the explosion that will inevitably happen. If my brother throws a laptop at the T.V., and my mom sees it, I get to pay for it. - Kaboom

My sisters can break all my crap, and my mum pretends it never happened. If I make the smallest knick in something, I get to pay all the charges. It sucks. I get to pay for all my own crap too. Thanks, mum. - SpyroZap99

7 Your siblings don't have to share their stuff (technically mom/dad's stuff they got free), but you need to share everything!

My younger sister REFUSES to touch my stuff.

You have to share your toys (if you even have any), your phone/tablet/pc (that you bought with your money), your lego creations, your books, your halloween candy, even your BATTERIES! - Kaboom

I own nothing anymore because this is so true. - SpyroZap99

And your secret - BorisRule

8 There is always a reason why you are bad/don't deserve xyz, but never for your sibling.
9 If you lay one finger on your younger sibling, your parents will go crazily mad, but if your younger sibling beats you up, they don't care and they blame you for self-defense

I remember this from my own childhood and now see and hear it happening in other families as well. I'm the oldest child and have a brother. Whenever you attacked your sibling, self-defense or not, you were committing a crime against humanity, according to your parents and other adults. If younger sibling did it, that was only cute and adults thought the older child, you, probably deserved it, too. When my brother and I were little children, our mother asked us why we always fought. My brother said it was because I didn't obey him because he didn't obey me because he didn't want to, so technically it was his fault. However, our mother just laughed it off. I don't think her reaction would have been the same if the roles had been reversed.

I swear to god my sister has beaten the crap out of me more times than I than I can count, but the moment I kick her back, I'm sentenced to house-prison. Being the oldest sibling is downright miserable. - SpyroZap99

Really true! Whenever my brother annoys me and I get angry at him my parents tell me that I'm always angry but when I annoy him they just yell at me for doing that. Damn

I am not invincible just because I am an oldest sibling. - Kaboom

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10 Siblings get everything they ask for as early/late Christmas/birthday gifts, and, therefore free. You need to pay for everything you want, and your sibling's presents

My brother got like a $60 present and it was BeyBlades and absolutely useless except for playing and guess what I got? An umbrella... that I needed so I didn't get wet when I walked to and from school... and it was like $20. Guess what I get for a christmas present... A THERMOS FOR LUNCH.

This is so true my little brother gets every exact thing on his wish list every single year. Part of this is because her birthday is on Christmas Eve and my parents say it makes him "special." I make a wish list with like at least 5 or 6 things (it used to be longer when I was younger) and I would get like 5 or 6 at the most depending on how expensive everything was but my brother would get like 8 at the least every year. I politely told my parents about how I felt (it was on Christmas) and my dad yelled at me in another room telling me that Christmas is THE WRONG DAY TO BE COMPLAINING! I said that in caps because he was screaming at the top of his lungs. I wish I could be like my little brother

Once my younger sister got a new phone for Christmas but when I asked for an Apple T.V. or an Apple Watch I was denied those and got clothes instead.

My oldest sister always buys christmas presents for my younger siblings, I'm the 2nd oldest and she doesn't get me anything.

The Contenders

11 All pressure is on you because you have to be the "perfect" example and role model for your siblings in the long run

I feel bad for all the older siblings that have to go through this! I'm happy I have a decent brother and I am treated equally as him and don't have to be a good example for him. And the parents want YOU to be a good example for your bratty younger siblings yet they don't care when the younger sibling does something bad and blame the oldest for everything! If I had to go through all these problems, I would hate my life forever and wait for the day to move out! I feel sorry for all the older siblings who posted their stories about their horrible lives with their obnoxious, spoiled, and bratty younger siblings!

This is just wrong we older siblings have better things to do

So true. I can't remember how many times I've been chewed out by my parents for not being the 'perfect role model'. If you want me to be the perfect role model, then you should have taught me when I was young mom

I am the youngest but TECHNICALLY the oldest since my sister acts like she's 5 all the time and I don't, but this is still accurate - FullmetalHeart

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12 Your younger sibling bullies you

My younger sibling said something that was serious. Like really serious, that could risk my life. I'm not going to say it for privacy reasons. She's bullied me a lot, and I have considered living in a new home because she can be dangerous. But she's been nice to me lately. Our relationship is on and off. - galaxyfox

My 19 year old sister bullies me whenever she gets mad

My younger cousins bullies me

I don't know about this... I have never heard a story about a younger sibling bullying the older one. There isn't even any reason for the younger one to do so, yet the holder has reason and power over the young one. - AnonymousChick

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13 When it is Christmas, your siblings get everything they ever dreamed of, and you get a few stocking stuffers from the dollar store

YES YES YES! My sister and cousins always gets stuff from extended relatives but I almost always get nothing. This is why I am greedy and constantly whine and beg to get things from everyone

Extended family gives your (younger) sibling more Christmas presents than you. Even if you're lucky enough to have parents who give you some "extra" packages to bridge the gap, some relatives come over on the day after Christmas and give your sibling some more gifts.

I know I should be thankful, but what use is something that will break before I take it out of the package? Kind of like getting nothing at all... - Kaboom

14 You aren't allowed to say a single bad thing about your younger sibling, but your younger sibling is allowed to insult you 24/7

I yelled at my little sis to get out of my room, and Mom yelled at me. Little sis then proceeds to go on a rant about how awful I am and how come I have friends because I'm so mean and Mom just sits and comforts her. THE HECK?!?!

My sister says stupid: mom and dad says nothing
I say stupid: mom and dad tells me not to say stupid

I get so pissed over this!

Your damn right ihave ayounger brother and its hell

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15 When the younger sibling always tells on you

Really true! I mean mine is horrible because of this reason

16 You have to do the most chores

In my case, it's pretty much ALL the chores, not the most. I'm 26 and I have to do chores but my sister is 19 and she is allowed to just sit there and be lazy

That's so me now. - Svampbob164

17 Your younger sibling get lots of attention while you get almost no attention

SO TRUE! This also applies to my younger cousins.

18 When your friends come over, your younger sibling will try to become their friend while excluding you from the group.

This exact thing happened when I was going to an amusement park with my best friend, my brother was asking her stupid ass questions and he was hitting her so I slapped him to get him to stop and my best friend laughed, it was so funny because of her!

Happens to me all the time...


19 You get blamed for everything

My cousins are PROFESSIONALS at getting me in trouble.


so true

It's horrible

Brother: breaks glass
Me: what happened dude be careful
Brother: MOM!

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20 When your siblings make a huge mess and you get in trouble for "not" watching them.

Uh hello? They're YOUR kids. You should be one the one looking after them. Us older siblings are not going to spend our lives cleaning up their messes. - TwilightKitsune

Seriously, my sister is almost nine, brother just turned ten, and my other bro is almost 13! And they still can't clean up after themselves, then I'm blamed for it and have to clean it up. - LostDream258

I think it's there bloody fault they should be able n

21 Your sibling can annoy you and you're not allowed to get mad

And when you do get mad you end up getting in trouble for it >:(

22 Your younger sibling tries to make you look like an idiot

When she was in elementary school my sister would grab that she's "smarter" and "more awesome" than me because she's fully toilet trained by age 3 1/2 but I was still in diapers at that age. I'm 26 and she's 19.

They never succeed I'm way smarter then them. Also some of this stuff is not true (Yeah my mom favors one of them but everyone else likes me more - Flowerfriend4407

I'm smarter cause I'm older I mean but I'm still considered really smart - Flowerfriend4407

23 Parents always assume you're a "bad influence"

How Is It that I'm the one being accused of watching rated R animes, when My brother sometimes watches intense cartoons like South Park? Pointless isn't It? - MLPFan

Me and little sis: (watching Parry Gripp)
Mom: "You batter not be showing her porn! "
Me: "Why in the heck would I do that?! "
Mom: "You have to be a good role model to Emily."
Me: "We're watching Parry Gripp! See for yourself! "
Mom: "I don't know what that is, and therefore, it is bad. Give me your iPad! You will be able to watch things with Emily when I think you are responsible enough."

24 You never get to have an older brother/sister to depend on him/her or seek their help and support

I always wanted an older sibling.

This may not be the most common (cousins, friends, etc.), but it's definitely one of the most influential. - Cfp3157

I always wanted an older sister...
Well thanks whoever posted this, you just made me cry

25 You're the family black sheep.
26 You are not allowed to get certain toys or gadgets because your younger sibling might swallow up all the small parts.

This mainly applies to siblings under the age of 3.

27 When your parents are mad at your younger siblings they show it on you, just because your older
28 "Younger first"

And on Christmas the oldest has to open their presents last

Some board games actually have a rule, "The youngest player's turn is first."

29 "She's/he's too young to understand"
30 Grandparents, uncles, etc. "don't have favorites" but the only acknowledgement you get from them is "good morning"


31 You are forced by your parents to share all of your secrets with your younger siblings.

Aren't secrets supposed to be KEPT?!?! - BorisRule

That’s the beauty of a secret, you know you’re supposed to keep it.

32 When you are expressing your feelings and they don't care but your younger siblings does the same and suddenly they care.

It sucks! Basically they are saying, "If you are depressed, screw you, your sister going through worse." Turns out she scraped her knee while you are thinking about suicide.

33 Younger siblings think they have it worst

You younger kids get lots of gifts, go on awesome vacations, and can eat whatever you want, while I, the oldest child, gets nothing, is always stuck at home and had a strict diet enforced by mom which includes very little-no dessert.


Middle kids and younger kids think they have it worst but we older kids have 10� - worse then the middle and younger

That’s a big lie. The youngest has it the best - Randomator

34 Your parents are strict on you and they are easygoing on the younger siblings

Seriously half the stuff my siblings got away with I would have gotten in trouble for. - Randomator


35 Your parents call your sibling good names while they call you bad names
36 They always had the easy way out and if they don't, you are expected to teach them

Think about when you discover way of life trough trial and error and when you discovered it after hardship, your parent will say be nice and share it with your younger sibling, the younger always had the easy way handed to them

37 They're allowed to get away with anything

My cousins steal my stuff and my mom says it's OK. I try to get my stuff back and mom tells me to leave them alone. >:(

38 When you ask for something, your parents give it to your younger siblings instead of you

Once at a party there were Pizza Hut breadsticks. My cousins and I wanted some but then my great-uncle told me that I don't get any and he gave them all to my cousins instead. I actually had to SNATCH THE BREADSTICK OUT OF MY COUSIN'S HAND. I really didn't want to, but my parents wouldn't let me call or go to Pizza Hut to order some for myself, and it was the ONLY WAY that I could get my fair share.

I remember asking my dad if he will play video games with me, and he said that I had to finish wrestling ( which I joined and instantly hated ) while my younger brother gets some cheap Call Of Duty game and my dad dedicates 30 minutes to play with him. Why couldn't he just play video games with me?

39 You work your butt off to get a car but when it's your younger siblings turn, your parents buy it for them
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1. Your parents use you as the "test dummy" for things
2. They learn how to be a proper parent for the younger siblings, but are still learning from you
3. They get scared of milestones (puberty, graduation, moving out, etc.) with their oldest child, but know what to expect for the younger siblings


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