Top 10 Worst Things to Tell Someone Dealing With Problems

Seriously refrain from saying these things on this list. I made this list for everyone so they know what is and isn't the right thing to say to people who have are going through a hard time.
The Top Ten
1 It could be worse.

This one annoys me the most. Just because someone else has it worse does NOT fix the current problem you're having

it really just doesn't fix whatever their current problem is. Ridiculous.

2 You don’t seem to feel bad.

Not everyone who is depressed SEEMS depressed. Just because someone doesn't seem depressed doesn't mean they are!

Agreed with this list.

3 Cheer up!

As well intentioned as this may seem, it's best to refrain from using this line. Someone with depression can't always snap out of it

4 You're being selfish.

Imagine being so dense that you genuinely believe people who are struggling are selfish. This is why many people suffer in silence.

Someone having depression does NOT make them selfish!

dealing with problems does not make someone selfish. the person who says that is selfish

5 Everyone goes through depression once in a lifetime.

I am honestly at my WITS END with people who think being sad when something happens to them, and actually struggling with depression, are anywhere near the same thing!

Everyone goes through sad times, but not everyone goes through depression. Being sad and depressed are NOT the same thing

6 Why don’t you try smiling and laughing more.

Simple answer: They can't

7 Get over it.

At least 'cheer up' may involve compassion, but 'get over it' is callous. Once, when I was at a low ebb, I was told 'Get over it.' I've hated the phrase ever since.

This obviously shows that you’ve got no respect and are just bothered by it which is plain rude.

8 Things are not that bad, stop pretending.

To you it may not be, but to them it certainly is

9 Smile and the world smiles with you.

why thank you henry for revealing this hidden secret like if I ever knew in the first place now I don't have depression anymore

Don't tell people with depression to "smile", it brushes off what they're going through

10 You become what you think.
The Contenders
11 You think you got it bad?
12 Stop thinking about it, things are going to be fine.
13 Others have it worse.

So by that logic, if I lose someone in my family who was very close to me, am I not allowed to be upset because "others have it worse"?

I hate when people say that. someones experience is valid no matter how bad it is.

14 If at first you don't succeed at solving your problems, go die.

I don't think anyone's ever said this

a little blunt, don't you think?

that's a little harsh

15 No one else will care. Yeah, no one really knows.
16 Life is hard but gets harder.
17 Chant hymns to leave life's troubles behind.
18 A tragedy is commonplace but in the end they go away.
19 Just leave it alone and don't regret it.
20 You will never know yourself until you do this on your own. You will never feel anything else until your wounds are healed. You will never be anything until you break away from yourself.
21 I never doubt everything's gonna be okay.
22 Understand you weren't meant to understand.
23 Living just isn't hard enough.
24 That's just how it goes. Don't you think I know. You don't have to tell it to my face.
25 Your voice it tries to corrupt me, but it never set me free from the way my mind is deep inside.
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