Reasons Why Middle School Relationships Are Stupid

1. Most of the time, it's not real love

   I do not think that any middle school or even high school love is real. I remember getting into a middle school relationship with a girl back when I was in seventh grade. It felt good at first, but within a few weeks, it was over and created a lot of stress and agony for the two of us.

   Animosity took place, and it wasn't really that pleasant of an experience. Middle school relationships are curses, and I think that there's nothing beneficial about them.

   They see it on TV and think they're cool and mature for getting into relationships. I can tell you it is absolute garbage. You can't just pick a random person you think is cool and say you "love" them. It has to be real.

   A friend of the opposite gender asked me out once, and I had to decline because I knew we'd be through in about a week, and it wasn't love.

2. Most people aren't mature enough

   This is so true. I've seen a lot of toxic relationships, rumors, and other stuff happen. Since it's a naive type of relationship, there's going to be a lot of crying and frustration. People won't even focus on school either.

   School is more important than falling in love (I'm sorry, but it's true for me because I'd rather be successful than crying over an ex that I'll regret dating).

   This is really true. A lot of the guys and girls are just looking for the title of "girlfriend/boyfriend". And they think that they are mature, but they're really not. They still haven't developed their frontal lobe yet. People just need to calm down, like seriously.

3. They cause you to be included in gossip

   Whoever invented gossiping should be sent to Guantanamo Bay (satire).

   Seriously though, the girls that gossip are just pathetic. So are these "relationships."

   When I dated a person (not going to name her), my peers caught wind and started watching my every move with that girl. It was so annoying that I was forced to break up with her just to get them to stop talking about it.

   Even though I'm still in middle school, I'm actually mature enough to think middle school dating and the never-ending gossip are completely pointless and stupid. Teachers and staff should take action against it.

4. Causes needless stress

   I agree because he is very toxic and enjoys talking about me when I'm not present. He consistently causes stress for me. Recently, my parents and I visited the school to file a complaint about his behavior. He even threatened to involve his 10th-grade sister in a fight with me.

   Honestly, it seems like he craves attention because I don't give it to him. Furthermore, he ended our relationship by claiming it was dull, but he wasn't contributing positively either. However, I'm not complaining. He was simply making my life unbearable.

   He's essentially a clown, and his anger stems from his own miserable life, which should not have any effect on mine. As my mom wisely said, there's no need to get worked up over someone who seeks attention by doing unnecessary things, and that's the end of it.

5. You could get in trouble

   In my school district, there are rules against PDA, and detention can be issued if you're caught. Any "inappropriate touching" or "sending nudes" could lead to legal issues or expulsion, even if both people give permission.

6. Can lead to bullying

   If emotional tensions get too high, then bullying - both emotional and physical - can occur. Hateful or threatening texts can be sent, or a fight might break out. Also, both guys and girls have fought with whoever cheated on them.

7. You probably don't have enough money to support them

   Some individual teens are more aware than others. Some teens can manifest millions or billions with minimal thought or effort. Money both is and isn't everything, depending on the circumstances and situations you're facing.

   There's no real supporting in middle school. Most people just get into relationships to look cool, seem mature, and get attention.

8. Your life shouldn't peak in middle school

   While it may be tempting to get into a relationship early, it's not all about that in life. If you're just concentrating on needless drama, then you'd fall behind your peers who are working hard to get to college.

   I'd say it's best to focus on your own academic and family issues before focusing on relationships.

   I agree - people should wait until they're older.

9. It usually ends after a few days

   It only lasted two weeks before I got sick of him. I was in the 6th grade at the time. Before we started dating, we were great friends. I hated dating him. It was a dare made by a friend, and it turned out the boy actually liked me.

   I broke up with him through a friend since I was too scared to say it myself. The breakup shattered our friendship, but we became friends again in the 8th grade.

   Literally every relationship in my school has ended within weeks. If you're going to be in a relationship, you might as well be serious about it!

10. Most of the boys are perverts

    Indeed! Boys between the ages of 12 - 15 years can be very perverted because they just hit puberty. They have not been educated about sexual harassment at this point in life.

    Agreed, obviously not all of them are, but my first relationship in 8th grade lasted 3 days before the guy wanted to start grabbing A$s. Smh.

    60% of my male classmates are perverts, but I, with the other 36%, are not perverts.

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    You can't drive yet

    When I recall my middle school relationships, I remember one time when I was out with a girl. It was so awkward and weird to talk about it with her parents. To sum it up, the experience was immensely cringy.

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    Can make you lose friends

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13. Usually ends in heartbreak

    Even high school and college relationships often end in heartbreak. It happens to all of us.

    Maybe. But you have to accept it. First rule of life.

14. They never even talk or just be awkward around each other

    So true. My friends and I made this rule: don't say you have a crush on someone until you've relaxed and gotten to know them.

    That's what it was like during the relationship, which only lasted 2 weeks.

    They never talk. They hug, and that's that.

15. Way too much drama, and always ends in crying

    Just my honest opinion, but what is the point of dating when in the next several weeks your face will be smashed against a pillow drenched in tears? I choose not to date because it's not like my first crush will marry me, and we will end up breaking up at some point!

    The girl who's dating my ex-friend will cry at the end. They've dated for a month, and the guy is really manipulative. I told myself that it would be my fault if I didn't tell her that he was toxic, but who am I to tell her? I'm not even her friend. Or classmate. I'm just this girl who happens to look just like her.

16. Could lead to sexual intercourse

    I used to think that a kiss was the furthest point in a relationship, so I wanted to be in one. Then I learned that most people want intercourse, so I will just stay single for life and enjoy it.

    Some people in my school are talking about "it" and I'm just like "boy" this is middle school. You shouldn't be celebrating. You should be checking into a doctor's office.

17. They hardly ever end up getting married

    Those who ended up married made the correct investments. Those who made incorrect marriage investments ended up divorced. Those who stay married are typically cultured or over-cultured. Those who aren't cultured or intelligent enough end up alone.

    Even though I know someone who started dating at 14 and has been married for 15 years, almost all first relationships fail.

    Unless they have REALLY incredible luck.

18. It's a waste of time

    I was in 8th grade. My friends pushed this kid I liked to date me, and I friend-zoned him after a day because I felt so confined. It's ridiculous to be at an age where, instead of just having fun, you feel like you need someone to love. At 13?

    Thank God I was at least somewhat smart and had the brain at that age to realize that middle school relationships are a waste of time and nothing to stress about. I'm a little older now and still single. I've had people ask me out, and I still say no due to that feeling of confinement. I just want to do my own thing.

    So again, it's a waste of time and leads to useless depression when you break up.

    You're twelve, alright? Maybe focus on your work, not on relationships. It's not like you'll get married to them, and they aren't your one true love. Trust me, there are better people out there. Just grow up and wait.

19. They do it to look cool not to love each other

    "To look cool not to love each other?" The normalization of that trend has to permanently end. Those who are meant to be lovers must remain true to what was written for them before they returned to Earth. You can't be obedient to destructive trends that will haunt you for the rest of your life or existence.

    Individual teens who remember each other through their bonded love cannot be separated or voided at any cost.

    It often seems like the hype over middle school relationships is for clout!

    Exactly. Most of the time, they don't even really like each other.

20. They are too young

    I just started middle school, and why the heck was I already seeing couples in the first week?! Like, calm down. You're all twelve.

    Oh, we are having a romantic date in a public school cafeteria!

    So young they don't know true love. Kids these days are idiots.

21. Immaturity leads to distress

22. It always causes awkward conversations after the breakup

    LOL. You "date" some girl, break up, and then it's awkward between you and her for a while. True story.

    They seem SOOOOO heartbroken, but it's fake.

23. All you do is hold hands and aren't actually dating

    Yep. Everyone I know brags about their boyfriend when they aren't actually dating.

    What is dating when all you do is hug? Relationships are supposed to be deeper, people!

    All you really do is hold hands while walking beside each other, or maybe - just maybe - you'll actually kiss, but that's rare.

24. You will get caught up in the relationship and not know how to end it and when it ends you'll be heart broken

25. Makes your friends uncomfortable

    It makes it hard to talk to my friend because she's always gossiping about stuff.

26. They are based on looks and not love

    I know this girl who's dating my ex-friend, and he's really narcissistic, manipulative, and toxic. I asked my friend (the one who played a part in getting them together), "What does she even see in him?" and he said, "He has really nice eyelashes and he's cute."

    Facepalm.

    True, you don't want to know how many times these ugly dudes in my class ask out girls because of their butt. Oh, but don't worry, she'll say yes and it will be all over...right? Yeeahno.

    All they ever talk about is how their girlfriend is going to show up in the most revealing clothing.

27. Leads to bad grades

    If you have bad grades, there will be a number of consequences - from gossip about you to angry parents to ruining your life.