Top 10 Biggest Struggles of Being a Tomboy

The Top Ten
You are forced to wear feminine clothes by your parents

I usually like wearing graphic t-shirts most of the time, but sometimes when I go shopping, I have to buy some "trendier" things because my mom says graphic t-shirts can't be the only things I wear. My mom does say that I cooperate the best when it comes to clothes shopping, though.

I'm also pretty sure I wouldn't be allowed to wear a women's tuxedo for a formal dance.

This happens to me sometimes. Once, my mom made me wear a dress because I was wearing a black shirt and plaid pants. I got so mad because I didn't feel like myself. My mom knows that I don't like dresses or skirts and that I prefer more masculine things.

Some girly girls hate you

There was a time when girly girls did not accept me for being a more tomboyish girl who didn't want to listen to their boy bands or wear a bunch of jewelry.

Girly girls always seem to hate the fact that I hang out with guys, but it doesn't get to me.

Some people think you're a lesbian

I hate this so much! I'm a tomboy and straight, yet the girly girls in my school call me a dyke and a lesbian. It turns out that one of the girls who bullies me is bisexual!

I am not a lesbian. Not all tomboys are lesbians. Just because they dress boyish does not mean they are. I am bisexual and actually lean more towards men.

Sure, I wear metal band t-shirts, and I have a leather jacket and want more. I want a sidecut (because they're metal)! The latter is usually associated with lesbians, but I want one, and I'm asexual.

Some of your family want you to be girly

One of my sisters is like this. I hate makeup. I tried putting it on once because I was going to this fall bash party, but I just ended up looking like I had a black eye or something, so I took it off.

This applies to all of my family members. My mom wants me to wear very feminine clothes, and my dad gets mad at me for wearing hoodies and flannel shirts.

My Asian relatives think that since I'm born a girl, I have to act like a girly girl forever.

Some people think you hate girly girls when you don't

There is a huge difference between calling out some annoying people and hating every girly girl. Please learn it.

I don't hate girly girls. Some of my friends are girly girls, and they are nice people.

You are forced to wear makeup by your parents

Every time I go out, I feel pressured by my parents to put on makeup just to look good. But I don't care if I look good.

Yep. Every time I go to a school dance or wedding.

You can't walk properly if you are forced to wear high heels

Honestly, I feel that. I am a mix of tomboy and girly, but to be honest, I hate wearing high heels. I know some ladies wear them to feel powerful, but I will never wear those - they are uncomfortable.

Which is why I avoid high heels. If I wear a dress with anything, I wear flats (or sparkly Converses). Update: I don't wear dresses anymore, and for prom this year and next year, I'm wearing a tuxedo.

Haha, this is me. I just wear combat boots or regular boots that aren't that high up.

You get mistaken for a man

I have a pretty deep voice for a girl. When I first sent a voice recording in a chat room on Amino, one member - who I commonly chatted with - said my voice was manly, even though I'm a girl. When I'm recorded or on video and happen to speak, my voice sounds like a teenage boy's. Even when I make Roblox-based characters, they're often mistaken for guys, and my winter outfit on my regular Roblox avatar is mistaken for male.

Again, you don't have to be girly to avoid being mistaken for a man.

Some people think I look like a boy.

You can't wear jeans if you need to wear formal clothes

I HATE dresses, but my mom always makes me wear them on special occasions, and I hate it.

Everyone thinks you are good at sports even if you're not

The thing with sports is that I am not good at them, not because I hate playing or because I don't have the energy. I have both. The issue is that I don't have the organized, quick-thinking skills needed for sports. Sometimes, I might break a rule simply because I didn't follow a step correctly. There are just so many rules in sports, and you have to act quickly. I'm not the most organized person, nor am I the quickest thinker.

I prefer more free-form sports like skating, which isn't very structured. I haven't skated before, but I feel like I would be decent at it since it's not as organized, and I have the energy for it.

The Contenders
Everyone judges you based on your looks

Look, I agree I wear t-shirts and boyish stuff, but it's much better than walking in a short skirt and wearing heels.

Everyone assumes things about you that aren't true
Guys might reject you
No one listens to tomboys
People try to change you
The way you sit is considered "unladylike"
People think you are trans
People want to be friends with popular girly girls
People behave strangely towards you
It's a pain to find shoes in your size that aren't feminine or from the children's section
You are forced to wear feminine colors by your parents
You can't have boyish jobs
You can't wear your cap backwards because some people think you're gay
You have to hide your tomboyish identity
People want your favorite color to be anything related to pink

Pink is for girls - not for me or any other tomboys out there.

1. It's an ugly color.
2. It's a girly color.
3. The girls' section always has girly clothes that are pink.
4. Your parents want you to wear pink, but you don't want to wear that dang color!

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