Top 10 Worst Things to Tell Someone Dealing With Problems

Refrain from saying these things on this list. I made this list for everyone so they know what is and isn't the right thing to say to people who have are going through a hard time.
The Top Ten
1 You're being selfish.

Imagine being so dense that you genuinely believe people who are struggling are selfish. This is why many people suffer in silence.

Someone having depression does NOT make them selfish!

2 It could be worse.
3 Cheer up!

As well intentioned as this may seem, it's best to refrain from using this line. Someone with depression can't always snap out of it

4 You don’t seem to feel bad.
5 Get over it.

At least 'cheer up' may involve compassion, but 'get over it' is callous. Once, when I was at a low ebb, I was told 'Get over it.' I've hated the phrase ever since.

6 Everyone goes through depression once in a lifetime.

I am honestly at my WITS END with people who think being sad when something happens to them, and actually struggling with depression, are anywhere near the same thing!

7 That's just how it goes. Don't you think I know. You don't have to tell it to my face.
8 Why don’t you try smiling and laughing more.

Simple answer: They can't

9 A tragedy is commonplace but in the end they go away.
10 Living just isn't hard enough.
The Contenders
11 You become what you think.
12 Things are not that bad, stop pretending.

To you, it may not be, but to them, it certainly is.

13 Just leave it alone and don't regret it.
14 If at first you don't succeed at solving your problems, go die.

I don't think anyone's ever said this

15 Smile and the world smiles with you.

Don't tell people with depression to "smile", it brushes off what they're going through

16 Stop thinking about it, things are going to be fine.
17 You will never know yourself until you do this on your own. You will never feel anything else until your wounds are healed. You will never be anything until you break away from yourself.
18 I never doubt everything's gonna be okay.
19 Life is hard but gets harder.
20 Others have it worse.

So by that logic, if I lose someone in my family who was very close to me, am I not allowed to be upset because "others have it worse"?

This is what most people say.

21 Your voice it tries to corrupt me, but it never set me free from the way my mind is deep inside.
22 You think you got it bad?
23 No one else will care. Yeah, no one really knows.
24 Chant hymns to leave life's troubles behind.
25 Understand you weren't meant to understand.
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