Top 10 Mistakes Parents Make When Raising Children

The Top Ten

1 Spoil Them

My cousins are constantly spoiled. They now whine, cry and throw tantrums whenever they don't get whatever they want. My relatives have turned them into spoiled brats.

I don't have a phone and get 2 hours of actual gaming per day, and I am the only one of my peers to see the reasoning there...

Kids who are spoiled will grow up thinking everything is just gonna be handed to them.

I really wish parents could see this Top Ten...

2 Let Them Do What Ever They Want

Ex: Call of Duty

All the time!

Me: my cousin just threw a ball in the house
Mom: let them be
Me: my cousin is listening to songs with explicit language in them
My relatives: that’s OK
Me: my cousins are trying to stab me with a fork
(My relatives ignores it)

3 Try to Be Their Friend

Parents need to know one important thing Your a parent first and a friend second

They can't even be a good role model to me, why would they want to be my friend?

4 Be Too Overprotective

"Get away from that tissue box! The tissue has sharp edges! " you may hear.

"You can die from <insert any minor injury here>" -my Asian parents

The story of my life living with religious loons...;_;

My mom in a nutshell:

-(I eat expired food) you may die from that!
-you will get a bad sunburn if you go out in shorts for only 1 second during the sunset hours (it’s summertime)
-don’t ride that roller coaster. It goes upside down and you may die from it.
-no using the stove to cook. You might burn the entire house down.
-you will get diabetes if you eat that piece of cake.

5 Don't Discipline Them

I know some parents who do this and their kids are rude and disrespectful to other people

My parents don't even care when my 19 year old sister threatened to kill me.

6 Do Everything for Them

My parents do this for my cousins and sister all the time. Now they’re lazy.

7 Don't Spend Enough Time With Them

I swear that I have the most boring parents in the entire universe...

8 Neglect Them
9 Try to Make Them Fulfill Their Own Dreams

Ikr? Some kids these days need to learn it isn't all about them. Life is not a movie and they are not the main character!

10 Weight/Body Shaming

My Asian parents always calls me fat :(

The Contenders

11 Abuse Them

I added this

12 Fight In Front of Them

My parents would demonstrate violence such as throwing furnitures to express anger and use over the top profanity in front of me. They've fought 3 times or so and again, they let me saw them fight, cuss and brutally beat up stuff. Yet we are expected to be like our parents. Sigh.

Luckily my parents almost never fight with each other and if they do, the fight is over within about 20 seconds

Yes, and I have heard the F word like a thousand times in these fights 67% of the time it is daddy

I now have agression issues because of this

13 Threaten Them
14 Not Supervising Them When They are on the Internet
15 Spank Them

I've grown out of this now, but let's just say when I was younger, I deserved every smack. It was all in the purest of intentions.

It only learns kids to hit people when there older when people do something wrong

Growing up Asian, spankings were very common in our household. They no longer happen to the older kids (eg. me, my sister, and cousins) but 2 of my younger cousins still occasionally get them. We now sometimes get aggressive because of it, and that is not a good thing at all. I try not to get aggressive, but it is very difficult.

16 Not Watching a Movie Before Deciding It's Appropriate for Their Kids

Stupid

17 Favoring One Child Over the Other

This is a one of the major mistakes a parent can make by favoring one child over the other they make the other feel completely worthless just look at Hey Arnold the only reason Helga acts the way she does is because her parents always gave more love and attention to her older sister Olga.

My parents favor my younger sister over me

I feel that my whole family is against me

18 Make Kids Do Chores

Its child hood we will work when were older

Spoiled brat alert

19 Being a Hypocrite

Parents tell you don't do this ; the next thing they do it and its all right because they parents. That is contradicting to a child or teen

20 Ban Your Child from Gaming

Kids might make fun of them for not knowing Minecraft, Mario or other stuff.

21 Yell at them until they cry

My dad called my brother an idiot after saying several, horrible things, and my brother started crying.( My brother NEVER cries)

22 Favor 1 Child Over the Other

My family loves my sister and cousins more than me. It really hurts me on the inside and it makes me feel invisible :(

23 Swear in Front of the Kids

I am always cursed at and one day when my mom cursed, I cursed and almost got grounded for it. It is a habit for them and it is so annoying

Where do you think WE learn the swearing from?

24 Let Them Watch Dora the Explorer

NASTY!

25 Let Them Consume Inappropriate Media
26 Compare Them With Other People

They already did this to me from early childhood

27 Make them look religious

My parents aren't religious people (we're not atheists, but not so religious either)

Kids can choose their own religion.

28 Constantly Give In
29 Scare Them

They say that this will hurt, etc...

30 Insult Them
31 Constantly Criticize Them

I never seem to satisfy them :(

32 Yell at Them Whenever They Get Mad
33 Overprotect Them from the Outside World

This is mainly for OVERPROTECTIVE parents only.

My hometown hosts free concerts/fireworks, etc during the holidays and my ridiculously overprotective Asian mom who ALREADY restricts my freedom despite the fact that I'M AN ADULT won't let me attend them due to her being very scared of potential security/terrorism threats.

Me: can I go to this free concert/fireworks display?
Mom: no
Me: Why not? It's free!
Mom: You might get hurt/killed.
Me: It's 100% safe! They have security there.
Mom: I said no
Me: >:(

I feel trapped in my own home sometimes because of this... :(

34 Set Limits and Rules for Their Adult Children

I'm an adult. My mom is extremely overprotective. I'm not allowed to attend free holiday concerts or fireworks displays because my mom thinks they're dangerous. I'm not allowed to ride roller coasters that has inversions in them. I'm not even allowed to walk to a store THAT'S JUST ACROSS THE STREET FROM MY HOUSE by myself!

35 Not Accepting the Truth

My parents always think that I'm lying when I'm really telling thew truth >:(

36 Denying What They Did Wrong and Refusing to Apologize for Their Wrongdoings

Once my mom yelled at me in public in front of my relatives and made me cry and she denied her wrongdoing and refused to apologize even though my relatives all witnessed it!

37 Treating/Speaking to Older/Grown Kids Like They're Babies and Toddlers

My great aunt does this a lot and it's really really irritating.

38 Say No

Stop threatening your parents to say yes to everything. Spoiled brat alert, again

Their favorite word

39 Embarrassing Their Kids on Purpose

At family parties my parents like to roast me to my aunts and uncles and they find it really hilarious.

40 Displaying Public Affection in Front of Their Friends
41 Attempting to Disown Them
42 Misbehave in public and the child imitates the bad behavior and making excuses rather than accepting responsibility.
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