Top 10 Hardest Things About Having a Crush

From your first love in third grade, to your prom date in high school, these are the worst things about crushes.
The Top Ten
1 Getting rejected

Ah, yes. I have a crush on the hottest boy in town. So many other people like him, including one of my friends. I don't blame her, but he doesn't like her.

I, however, am considered "hot" and have at least seven boys with crushes on me. I am friends with my crush, but he rejected me in a more friendly way! We were playing a game during recess, and he kicked me and two other kids out.

I was afraid of rejection. Then, I asked this girl out who's nice to me and a few months older than me, but she said no because she already had a boyfriend. Then, one of my friends kept begging her to go out with me, and I kept telling him to stop. Man, I was depressed for a few days.

2 Attracting every boy or girl except for the one you like

Yeah, like in 4th grade and 7th grade. These girls go after me like wannabe Directioners go after Harry Styles. It's crazy and also invades your privacy. And it's not even the girl you like.

But, to be honest, it does teach you a lesson. If you're obsessing over a girl or a guy, now you feel the other side of the argument.

That legit happens all the time for me. Before I have the chance to ask this girl out, another girl comes up and asks me out, and I just can't say no.

That's so true. When I was 10, I liked this one guy from my neighborhood, and in the end, his little brother ended up liking me, which is very annoying.

3 Getting friend-zoned

I told my friend to tell my crush that I liked him. She did, and when he talked to me, he agreed to be my boyfriend. But then the very next day, he broke up with me, and now I am in the friend zone. So every time we see each other now, it is very awkward.

Now that I am "friend-zoned," I actually don't want to have anything to do with him. I am heartbroken and sad. Sometimes I think that I am ugly. Other times I think that nobody else will like me. It has been a year now, and I am still single, but I am trying to move past this the best that I can.

To everyone else who is going through either rejection, breakup, or being friend-zoned, don't be like me and think that nobody else will like you. Move on and accept it. There will be another person waiting to fall in love with you. There is a mythical story where there is an invisible red string tied to your ankle, and your future lover has the other side of the string tied to theirs. In the future, you will meet your lover who has the other side of the string tied to his or her ankle. Sometimes I think about this story, and it makes me feel more confident about myself. I hope that whoever reads this finds it helpful.

4 Competing

This is usually what happens when guys go after a popular girl or something: they fight, almost to the death. Most of them never get to talk to their crush since they're just fighting for it.

Although many wars are caused by money, different beliefs, land, resources, and greed, I'd say that lust is the most powerful cause. In the Iliad, a great Greek war story by Homer, whole cities are destroyed for one woman: Helen of Troy.

I am about to have a fit over this (good thing I'm on Christmas break), and here is the worst part: The guy that is closest in my class to being a friend of mine has a crush on the girl I have a crush on. Also, we are in different center groups, and she is with my "possible friend," and I'm not, so he has the advantage.

The only possible advantage I have is being in the same math group as her.

5 Accepting that they don't like you

There is this guy that I have liked for ages now. The thing is, he hates me. He always has hated me, and he always will. But I can't get over him, no matter what I do. He knows I like him, and he calls me obsessed with him. I'm not, though. My friend makes it seem like I am by always going up to him and talking to him about me. That's all they talk about together: me.

I'm mainly mad about this whole thing because he won't even say it to my face! He has talked to my friend and my friend alone about this. It sucks. What I have to be thankful for is that he isn't popular. Therefore, not many people know about this. I wish I could talk to him, but I know I can't. I have tried countless times and I can't. I've accepted he doesn't like me, but for some reason, I always have hope...

6 Being jealous

So my crush likes my best friend, and my best friend likes him. Once, my crush asked me if I knew about him and my BFF, and I'm like, Uh, yeah. All he said was that he was surprised I didn't tease him about it.

I was dying on the inside.

My best bro is really good friends with my crush, so you know, it's hard for me.

I feel that all the time! Whenever someone touches my crush, I feel jealousy.

7 Being too afraid to talk

Yep, this is a big one. I am bisexual, and I fear approaching people I am enamored with for different reasons based on gender.

In the case of dating men, I generally am attracted to men who are older than 30. Having this kind of preference as an 18-year-old who only became a legal adult four months ago, I tend to not even want to bother looking for a man. Any good guy worth spending my time with will be very wary about dating someone so young, and rightfully so. I'd rather not put a man in that awkward position.

In the case of being attracted to a woman, I usually develop feelings for straight girls. There is no point whatsoever in telling a woman that I am attracted to her because it won't go anywhere, and of course, I always fear it will ruin our relationship. I have yet to have a crush that I actually feel would be a good idea to try and pursue.

8 Seeing your crush "having a thing" with a bully

Technically, he doesn't "have a thing" with my bully - but he kinda does. He and my bully are super close! When I say close, I mean my bully can't be away from him for like 15 seconds, and she follows him like a puppy!

It's honestly annoying. When she's around him, she acts like she's an angel from heaven, but if I even walk past her, she just has to give me some nasty look or eye roll.

I know the feeling. I have the biggest crush on someone who hangs out with a boy who's bullied me for years. I kid you not. He's bullied me since elementary school and hasn't gotten bored of it.

9 Breaking up

This should be number two on the list. The best girlfriend I had broke up with me because of a rumor that came from her sister because her sister liked me. I'm still not over the breakup, and it's been two years since she broke up with me. And I'm still not over it.

Why middle school relationships are pointless. You get a "date" but only for about three weeks, then you break up and find a new one. It goes on forever!

10 Getting their attention without making a complete fool of yourself

Oh, crud! I do this a lot! Once, we were going to the library, and I put a pencil on my ear. I was holding a ton of stuff. Then, I said I was doing this to be "wise."

Are you kidding me!

I was preaching in front of my crush.

The Contenders
11 Knowing it probably won't last

Everyone goes separate ways after high school. Your crush could be the next Beyoncé or living in a dumpster. Your classmates would be spread out across the world.

It's possible to make it last, you know, by calling him/her and stuff, but sometimes you have to let go.

Mine lasted for about three years, but I had another crush that only lasted for two weeks.

12 Moving schools

This happened to me in high school. The girl I had a crush on moved to another school.

The worst part is the way I learned about it. I had to go see the principal about one of my classes, and when I got to the office, I heard her talking about her transfer to another school. It made me sad because she was the only girl that I felt comfortable talking to without even knowing her much.

Oh my gosh, this is what is happening to me. I've been going to the same school as my crush since first grade. She is one of my best friends. We are both going to 7th grade now, and we're going to different middle schools. It makes me feel infuriated.

Originally, we were supposed to meet up again in high school and were going to the same school. Now she's moving to another city. She might not go to the same high school as me! Now I'm only going to get to see her on breaks. Gahhh!

For those of you reading this, know that you aren't alone. Other people, myself included, are going through this pain! I know it's really painful. It kills me every second I'm not with her. The best thing to do is just talk to someone about it. It's still going to be pretty crappy to accept this, but talking about it will hopefully make you feel just a bit better about the situation.

It sucks even more if you have my problem and your crush is a friend of yours. This means losing both your crush and your friend. Everyone who is going through this, I feel you! I feel your pain! It's a difficult thing to power through, I get that. And to the folks who don't have to go through this emotional hell, you are blessed. You are lucky. I'm jealous.

13 Having them leave

I imagined what it'd be like if my crush died, and I would be depressed for life. I would just quit preaching and doing my prophetic ministry and pray that God will take my life so I don't have to feel this way.

I won't commit suicide, but I'd be depressed and would wish to just disappear until the time of judgment comes.

14 Keeping it a secret

So, I had a crush on this boy in seventh grade. I kept it a secret for about ten months. The only person I told was my BFF Isabella. She said she would not tell anyone.

But on May 10th, 2018, we were taking a practice test when Isabella decided to write on her paper "Micaela Likes You" and showed it to him. He was shocked and was just like, "Why didn't you tell me?"

In eighth grade, he came up to me and asked me out. I said yes, and to this day in 2019, we are still dating.

There's this boy who I really like. All of my friends say I should date him, and they don't even know I like him. And I don't want to tell anybody.

15 Seeing your crush with one of your friends

Not many things make my blood boil as much as seeing my crush with one of my friends. It triggers me to even see her with another boy, regardless of whether I even know him or not. My best friend used to have a crush on her, but he's moved on (thank God), and it still pisses me off when he even goes near her.

Recently, he and my crush took a picture together, just the two of them. Unfortunately, I had to endure watching that. I tell you, the only reason I didn't RKO him right then and there was that he no longer had feelings for her. Still, it was hell to watch.

16 Being harassed over it

This happened to me and confused me like heck! I was really good friends with this one boy and had a crush on another who I'm not even friends with.

My friends started accusing me of having a crush on the boy who I was friends with, even though they knew I had a crush on the guy I wasn't friends with. That night, I could barely fall asleep because I got so confused!

17 Barely knowing them

Trust me, it's the WORST! And it's not like he doesn't want to be friends with me. I've just never actually talked to him because I'm always too scared!

I really just want to be friends with him, but it doesn't help that I rarely see him more than once every five months or so! Plus, I think he has a girlfriend now.

18 Thinking they like you and then you see them with another person

This is horrible. It truly sucks.

I have a guy I like. We've talked a few times, have a lot in common, and are very similar in personality. He leans in when we talk and stares into my eyes. I've also caught him staring at me during classes.

Then one day, I see a girl with her arms wrapped around him, and he is just standing there. He and I made awkward eye contact. I rushed out with my friend.

I found out that she is his girlfriend! However, they are apparently an 'on-again off-again' couple.

That was not a very nice day.

I have had a crush on this boy named Arturo forever. In one of my classes, he does everything possible to make me laugh and he raises his eyebrows at me. Then one unexpected day, I saw him with this girl named Itzayana. My eyes were filling with a Pacific Ocean of tears. I bet the only reason he likes her is because she has the stupid iPhone X.

My friend Tatiana said, "He likes Itzayana," and I was like, "Why? Because she thinks she's the hottest kid in class?" She said, "Well, I have to say Itzayana is very pretty." I ran back home and used up 15 boxes of tissues.

19 Feeling weird when you see them
20 Finding out they're taken

Oh. My. Gosh. Yes. That is so me right now. Since I'm not completely positive that they're together, I have a tiny glimmer of hope that they don't have a relationship.

The only thing is that my glimmer of hope is probably wrong. She was leaning on his shoulder, his head was on hers. She and he were constantly hugging. It's not likely that she's not his girlfriend.

That is the worst. I never asked my crush out, but if I did and she was taken, it would have sucked.

21 Making it less obvious that you have a crush

I did it to the point where even my best friend didn't see it coming.

22 Asking them out

Listen! You're scared of asking them out! And you're waiting for them to ask you out? That's NOT going to work. They are scared too! You're not the only one who does that. Be BRAVE!

23 Getting confused

It's just so annoying when your crush shows signs of liking you back, yet they show the same signs towards other people.

24 Your crush's friend not liking you

I had this happen in grade 10. My crush's best friend didn't like me! She would give me dirty looks and seem upset near me. It was hard to go through. I remember one day I was being bugged by some girl who had a crush on me. My crush and her friend were outside, and my crush's friend asked me, What's wrong? Then she said, Never mind, in a rude way.

It upset me, and it was hard to be near my crush sometimes with her friend around. Luckily, she quit or moved to a new school after the first week of grade 11, and I was able to go near my crush without her friend giving me dirty looks or seeming rude.

25 Trusting your friends about it

So far, I've had no problems with this, but one of my friends came really close to giving it away when we were RIGHT NEXT TO the girl I like the other day.

You literally can't, unless your friend is at another school.

I like a guy, but I will NEVER tell any of my friends. The next day, here's what will happen:

Me: I'm so glad I got that off my chest!

Random girl: Hey! Is it true you like *insert name here*?


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