Top Ten Things That Happen When You Question Your Sexual Orientation

I'm not comfortable saying I'm gay yet, because it could be a phase, and because I think I'm too young to put a label on all my feelings. However, I'm okay with a temporary label like "Questioning", which I am.
The Top Ten
1 Feeling like you could blurt it out any second

Thank goodness I haven't yet, but I can't tell you how many times I've felt like shouting, "I'm a lesbian!" out of the blue. Of course, I shouldn't before I know for sure, and I don't.

I've never seriously questioned my straightness, but I can imagine this would be difficult.

2 Wondering what would happen if you did come out

My fears are that my female friends won't treat me the same, that my church won't accept it, or that I'll be perceived as an attention-seeker.

3 Wondering if it's a phase

I wondered that, too. I've always found the female body beautiful and soft with its smooth edges and luscious curves. I've also always found the male body to be firm and strong with its sharp edges and more defined muscles. I like both, and I used to think that maybe feeling this way toward girls was weird, and that I would get over it.

Well, it turns out I wasn't as straight as I thought I was! Bisexuals represent!

It would certainly be embarrassing to come out and then realize I'm straight. That's mostly why I'm not solidifying my label anytime soon. Not that I need one at fourteen anyway.

4 Worrying about what your faith says about homosexuality

This is an issue for me. Being a devout Christian while questioning will certainly open me up to a boatload of criticism. In the end, I have my personal relationship with God, which shouldn't concern anyone else.

I don't think it is a sin to be bi, gay, or anything. God loves us. He just wants to help us and take us to heaven.

5 Thinking about how you would come out
6 Wondering whether your feelings are real
7 Confused about fitting the stereotype

I'm a girly girl, and most lesbians are stereotyped as masculine tomboys. That made it confusing because I didn't know if a lesbian could be feminine. (Of course, they can be - I know that now.)

This is true for me being transgender. I try not to act too girlish because I don't have the social skills for it. Usually, I just conform to whatever I was originally doing in my life anyway.

Of course, they can. Some lesbians are butch, others are feminine. Some gays are feminine, others are masculine, and you wouldn't know their sexuality unless they told you.

8 Being doubtful
9 Wondering if it's a choice

Short answer: It's not. If it was, I'd choose to be straight in a second. It'd be much easier.

10 Fear of it coming up in a conversation

I don't know how to react when people ask who I like.

Can't tell you how many times I've contemplated hitting "Add List." Ah, whatever. Hopefully, I don't regret this.

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11 Worrying about how your friends and family will react
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