Top Ten Hardest Things About Having a Crush

From your first love in third grade, to your prom date in high school, these are the worst things about crushes

The Top Ten

1 Rejection Rejection

I have this crush. Me and him never really talk, but I love him. I look up to passing him in the hallways. We both glance at each other the same time, and we both quickly look away. Last year, I was dead sure he had a crush on me, but now I don't know because we don't have any classes. Whenever I'm around him, he acts cool and it's cute. I didn't even tell my friends about this, even when we are playing truth or dare and I choose truth and they tell me who is my crush. I tell them I don't have one. I'm scared they will tell him. We both are alike. We are smart, indians, funny, and so on. I love him so much. Someone tell me what I should do!

You're lucky you can actually tell your crush how you feel! All of my crushes are fictional guys from books, video games, or movies, so they'll never know I exist. The saddest part is, I'm not even shy about my crushes. Whenever I have a real crush (happened to me 3 times), I make sure everyone knows it, even the person I like. Sure, they've never liked me back, but at least I can talk to them. Fictional crushes on the other hand...they're the worst kinds of crushes.

What if they don't like you? That's what I'm the most afraid of.

I would drink cyanide or jump off a cliff. - TriggerTrashKid

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2 Attracting every boy/girl, except for the one you like

I had these two kids fighting over me when I sat at the same table as both of them, next to one and across from the other. I don't know why they thought they were being so subtle and clever, but they weren't. I also fail to see why they thought any of their tactics would work, like saying in their coolest voice how sure they were they would end up with me, or how I would become some smoking goth person if I went with the other, but to all you guys out there, IT WON'T WORK. Then I have these other two kids who have a crush on me who... don't understand boundaries. It's really annoying and I'm just trying to not fail school, I have no interest in dating at only twelve years old. - pandagirl

Yeah, like in 4th grade and 7th grade. These girls go after me like wannabe Directioners go after Harry Styles. It's crazy, and also invading your privacy. And it's not even the girl you like. But, to be honest, it does teach you a lesson. If your obsessing over a girl or a guy, now you feel the other side of the argument. - ethanmeinster

That legit happens all the time for me. Before I have the chance to ask this girl out another girl comes up and asks me out and I just can't say no. - AlphaQ

Maybe that's why she is your crush... - Alkadikce

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3 Competition

This is usually what happens when guys go after a popular girl or something: they fight, to the death almost. Most of them never get to talk to their crush, since they're just fighting for it. Although many wars are caused by money, different beliefs, land, resources, and greed, I'd say that lust is the most powerful cause. In the Iliad, a great Greek war story by Homer, whole cities are destroyed, for one woman: Helen of Troy. - ethanmeinster

I am about to have a fit of this (good thing I'm on Xmas break) and here is the worst part:The guy that is closest in my class to being a friend of mine has a crush on the girl I have a crush on. Also, we are in different center groups, and she is with my "possible friend" and I'm not, so he has the advantage. The only possible advantage I have is being in the same math group as her.

I have way too much competition... :'( I should go find somebody else, but it's harder than it looks...

Yes, 75% of guys like my crush. - TriggerTrashKid

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4 Friend Zoned

I just want to be friends with the person I have a crush on.

If I could overcome my shyness,i could probably get my crush. - DapperPickle

I have a crush on my hot friend.

Sadly, it has happened to me. - TriggerTrashKid

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5 Accepting that he/she doesn't like you

There is this guy that I have liked for ages now. The thing is, he hates me. He always has hated me, and he always will. But I can't get over him, no matter what I do. He knows I like him, and he calls me obsessed over him. I'm not though. My friend makes it seem like I am, by always going up to him and talking to him about me. That's all they talk about together: me. I'm mainly mad about this whole thing because he won't even say it to my face! He has talked to my friend and my friend alone about this. It sucks. What I have to thank is that he isn't popular. Therefore, not many people know about this. I wish I could talk to him, but I know I can't. I have tried countless times and I can't. I've accepted he doesn't like me, but for some reason I always have hoped...

It's so hard! I take every little interaction sh has with me as something significant. - Lem

A Few Girls Don't Like Me Either Because Of My Teeth Or Because I'm Short - AlphaQ

Boo hoo - TriggerTrashKid

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6 Seeing your crush "having a thing" with a bully

A bully that beat you up and harassed you millions of times. It's really heartbreaking. - ethanmeinster

They could be friends with jerks, which also sucks.

I know the feeling. I have the biggest crush on someone who hangs out with a boy who's bullied me for years (I kid you not, he's bullied me since elementary school and hasn't gotten bored of it).

*heart shatters into a thousand pieces* - TriggerTrashKid

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7 Fear

I'm very shy and quiet. Talking to people takes a lot of effort I find. (Not very helpful when I have a crush) It took me a year to talk to him.
(He is just as shy as me)
A whole year.
Even then I had to come up with things to say beforehand. (I had a mental list of topics)

The day I talked to him:
(That morning I decided: this afternoon I will talk to him at our sports practice. I will no matter what. I will ask him about a class we both have)
I just ignored the fact that I felt like my throat was closing up, that I felt like vomiting, that my heart was beating so hard I could feel my heartbeat in every limb, and that my not risky brain was yelling at me to stop and sprint in the other direction.
I took a deep breath, marched over, and said something. And he said something back!
I felt like I had just gotten 100% on a test, or just won a race.
And then there was the day when he started a conversation with me! I literally could not stop smiling after ...more

Look, it's hard to talk to someone that gives you butterflies in your stomach. And there's those "what ifs"
What if he/she rejects me? What if he/she thinks I'm ugly? It's sometimes hard to get over your fears. However, how do you know that your crush hates you, if he/she hasn't told you yet? You shouldn't cry before talking to him/her, when, it's possible that they like you back. - ethanmeinster

For three terms, I've been trying to get the courage to talk to her, and ask her out, but I have gotten practically nowhere. - Lem

Yes. - TriggerTrashKid

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8 Jealousy

So my crush likes my best friend and my best friend likes him and once my crush asked me if I knew about him and my bff and I'm like uh yeah. All he said was he was surprised I didn't tease him about it. I was dying on the inside.

I feel that all the time! Whenever someone touches my crush, I feel jealousy.

My best bro is really really good friends with my crush, so you know, it's hard for me. - TriggerTrashKid

I'm immune to it - Myyouthisyours

9 Break-up

This only happens if you're lucky enough to get to third base. But still, it's influenced many people's lives. It's really hard to let go. Plus, the Bible states that people should be in a happy, eternal relationship, which is much better than breaking up every 6 months, like Taylor Swift. - ethanmeinster

This should be number 2 on the list. The best girlfriend I had broke up with me because of a rumor that came from her sister because her sister liked me. I'm still not over the brake up, and its been 2 years since she broke up with me. And I'm still not over it. :( - fierceoni226

Why middle school relationships are pointless. You get a "date", but only for about 3 weeks, then you break up and find a new one. It goes on forever! - RiverClanRocks

At least you got to date for some time

10 Getting his/her attention without making a complete fool of yourself

Oh, crud! I do this a lot! Once, we were going to the library, and I put a pencil on my ear. I was holding a ton of stuff. Then, I said I was doing this to be "wise."
Are you kidding me!

Oh, crud! I do this a lot!

I was preaching in front of my crush.

Hm - TriggerTrashKid

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The Contenders

11 When your crush/you are moving schools.

Oh my gosh this is what is happening with me. I've been going to the same school as my crush since first grade. She is one of my best friends. We are both going to 7th grade now, and we're going to different middle schools. It makes me feel INFURIATED. Originally we were supposed to meet up again in High school and we were originally going to that same school, but now she's moving to another CITY. Now she might not go to the same high school as me! NOW I'M ONLY GOING TO GET TO SEE HER ON BREAKS! GAHHH! So those of you, reading this, know that you aren't alone and other people (myself included) are going through this pain! I know, it's really painful, it kills me every second I'm not with her! The best thing to do is just talk to someone about it. It's still gonna be pretty crappy having to accept this, but talking about it will hopefully make you feel just a bit better about the situation. It sucks even more if you have my problem and your crush is a friend of yours. This means losing ...more

Bruh, I am in year 6, going to year 7, and my crush isn't going same school as me. - HanSup

I liked him last year when I was in seventh and he was in eighth, and it hurt so much when he went to high school. I was hoping we'd be going to the same one, but nope. I've seen him a couple times since last school year, and every time, it makes me a bit more sad/like him even more. - codename

Please no! - TriggerTrashKid

Hey my comment from 2017 is still here! by the way I still see the girl I love sometimes, not just on breaks so that’s good.

12 It probably won't last

Everyone goes separate ways after high school. Your crush could be the next Beyonce or living in a dumpster. Your classmates would be spread out across the world. It's possible to make it last, you know, by calling him/her and stuff, but you sometimes have to let go. - ethanmeinster

With a negative attitude like that you won't get far in life when it comes to dating. If you already think that it won't last before you can date the guy / girl, you never will. The opposite attitude " I can and I will succeed " will give you the challenge to fight for what you desire.

Yeah, you're always scared if it would last - micahisthebest

Yeah, that's sad. - TriggerTrashKid

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13 Harassment

I wanted to sit with the girl I liked at lunch, and by chance everyone except her moved away from the table. Since stuff spreads fast, everyone at the table in front of me knew, and started egging on me the entire lunch. - WonkeyDude98

I am constantly accused of having a girlfriend when I am just friends with a girl. Geez. - 445956

As I mentioned, many of my crush's classmates ganged up on me. You might wanna watch out for this. - ethanmeinster

14 Keeping it a secret

I haven't told him I like him yet but have had a boyfriend and keeping it a secret is so hard he almost told my sister we each got to tell one person and he cheated on me with my sister

There's this boy who I really like. All of my friends say I should date him and they don't even know I like him. And I don't want to tel anybody. - AnonymousChick

This was hard I told probably most of my friends about my crush I never told her, her friend or brother

Worst thing is if someone tell them that you have a crush on them or they suddenly hear it from you - Myyouthisyours

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15 Seeing your crush with one of your friends

Not many things make my blood boil as much as seeing my crush with one of my friends does. It triggers me to even see her with ANOTHER BOY, regardless if I even know him or not. My best friend used to have a crush on her but he's moved on ( thank god) and it STILL pisses me off when he even goes near her. In fact, recently he and my crush took a picture together, just the two of them. Unfortunately I had to endure watching that. I tell you, only reason I didn't RKO him right then and there was that he no longer had feelings for her. Still it was Hell to watch

I saw my friend that I known for 5 years then my ex I known for 3 years went out with each other then I talked to my friend about it. I made him brake up with her - fierceoni226

One of my best friends for 11 years was dating my crush, and I was a third wheel...

Or a bully, even worse - micahisthebest

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16 When he/she disappears

This happened to me... - Lem

I'd Just Get A New One... - AlphaQ

I imagined what it'd be like if my crush died and I wojld be depressed for life. I would just quit preaching and dling my prophetic ministry and pray that God will take my life, so I don't have to feel this way. I won't commit suicide, but I'd be depressed and would wish to just disappear until the time of judgement comes.


17 Being way too afraid to talk

Yeah I had this with my crush I always wanted to talk by myself and I would be always to nervous to go up to her and talk to her I was always nervous she would get upset or something, and the only way I talked was with a substitute teacher

I was once in a 2nd grade class with my ex-crush. We haven't been in the same class for 3 years. But I am in her class right now and we are right next to each other in seats. I'm not afraid to talk to her cause she's funny and is nice.

Me and my crush used to text 24/7 but now we don't as much anymore. I'd be friends with his friends and went to the park with all them once and we didn't say one word to each other. We have never talked irl but text a bit. Another thing is my crush is 2 years older and he doesn't wanna go with me in case he gets bullied. I need advice

I am. - TriggerTrashKid

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18 When you think they like you and then you see them with another person

Yep R likes me I think I like him I think... But J is a s%~ flirts with everyone and is a know it all! Now I think he likes HER!

I have had a crush on this boy named Arturo forever, in one of my classes he does everything possible to make me laugh and he blinks his eyebrows at me. until one unexpected day I saw him with this girl named Itzayana, My eyes were filling with a Pacific Ocean of tears, I bet the only reason he likes her is because she has the stupid IPhone X. And my friend Tatiana said “He likes Itzayana” and I was like why because she thinks she’s the hottest kid in class”, she said “Well I have to say Itzayana is very pretty”. I ran back home and used up 15 boxes of tissues

This is horrible. It truly sucks.
I have a guy I like; we've talked a few times, have a lot in common, and are very similar in personality. He leans in when we talk and stares into my eyes. I've also caught him staring at me during classes.

Then one day...
I see a girl with her arms wrapped around him, and he is just standing there. He and I made awkward eye contact. I rush out with my friend.

I found out that she is his girlfriend! However, they are apparently an 'on again off again' couple.

That was not a very nice day.

19 When you aren't friends and she barely knows you

That's like me now. But I'm gonna try and talk to him

She knows me and we are friends - TriggerTrashKid

20 When you aren't even friends anymore

Liking someone you can't talk to anymore because of past history with friends is the worst especially when they used to like you back

We used to be friends, but one day he was being super bratty so I flipped him off. Then he caught me staring at him about 6 times, and now he hates me. - Popsicles

Sort of. - TriggerTrashKid

21 Asking her/him out

This is the hardest! - micahisthebest

LISEN! Your scared of asking them out! End your waiting them to ask you out! That's NOT going to work. Their are scared too! Your not the only 1 that. Do that! Be BRAVE!

I never can - TriggerTrashKid

22 When they don't give you a second chance
23 Finding out they're taken
24 Making it less obvious that you have a crush

I always glance in her direction
It's really hard not to

25 Trusting your friends about it

This can be difficult. They are your friends, and they can offer advice, or they can just bother you.

I like this guy, and after my friends relentlessly trying to pry it out of me, I told them who. (Bad idea! )

In the halls when we passed him this is what would happen:
Friend 1: (stops in the middle of the hall) "oh look! Isn't that him? "
Friend 2: "Where? "
Friend 1: "there! " (Points)
Friend 3: "who? "
Friend 1: "her crush! "
Friend 3: "where? "
Friend 2: "there! " (points)
Me: shhh! (Tries to switch topics. Gives up. Pretends I forgot something at my locker, and leaves)

Or another day,
Friend 1: " do you know what time the event will be at? "
Me: no, I'll let you know if I find out though
Friend 2: "isn't your crush going to the event? "
Me: "yes"
Friend 2: "go ask him what time? He's right there! " (Grabs my arm and steers me in that direction. Chants "be brave! ")
Me: (awkwardly asks my crush about the ...more

So far, I've had no problems with this, but one of them came really close to giving it away when we were RIGHT NEXT TO the girl I like the other day. - Lem

You literally can't, unless your friend is at another school. - ethanmeinster

Someone told me, but it didn't work I: - micahisthebest

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26 Pressure

My friends have pressured me to ask her out but I have no nerve at all

27 Feeling weird when you see him/her
28 When they don't even know that you exist
29 Debating if you should text them first.
30 Getting confused

Its just so annoying when your crush shows signs of liking you back to, yet they show the same signs towards other people.

31 When you see them with people you think they hardly know

Like girl, I'm sorry but I was here first. I've seen a few people both me and my crush have only known for 9 months or so, flirting with him. They'll sit next to him and I'm just thinking, you should have been here 2 years ago like I was if you want him.

32 When you have to give your crush space

This is hard to go through say your crush makes you upset by dirty looking you or walking away or says something rude, then it mades you stress by giving them space for a few days and you can't go somewhere you like sometimes because your crush is there when your trying to give them space

33 When your crush says that you are like their sister/brother.
34 Confessing your love

Impossible for me - TriggerTrashKid

35 When they show signs of liking you, you get nervous

A guy I liked who was my friend used to stare at me when he thought I wasn't looking and used to always wait for me after I did stuff and he used to want to make me laugh whenever he could. This just made me more nervous than ever

36 Asking Him/Her To A Dance or Prom
37 When they are famous

I have a crush on Zayn Malik

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