Top Ten Reasons People Refuse to Believe That Being Gay Is Not a Choice

Twin studies, studies of brain structure and function, and other biological studies have all shown that there are genetic and physiological differences between gay and straight people. It is generally accepted as fact in the scientific community that people are born gay. It's not a choice they make and not a "preference" they can change through personal effort, counseling, praying, or any of the other methods purported to cure people from being gay.

Yet, despite all the evidence to the contrary, a large portion of the population refuses to accept the science and insists that gay people are just straight people who are determined to act gay for one reason or another.

Below is a list of reasons why people continue to believe being gay is a choice.

The Top Ten

1 They need to justify discrimination

I am homosexual and was born that way - people opining that homosexuality is a choice because the imaginary man in the sky says so need to get real - haha

Look, nature just doesn't make that many mistakes. It's statistically impossible. Homosexual behavior is just that, a behavior. Not condemning, do what you want in private, just don't rationalize your behavior by trying to convince yourself you were "born that way" (it's all natures fault), B.S..

I've got a boat load of scientific evidence supporting the fact that human sexuality is, in fact, determined by the wiring of your brain and not simply by choice. If you do not believe me, I suggest that you "choose" to be attracted to members of your own gender for a day instead of the opposite one. Get back to me when you prove irrefutable evidence and common sense wrong. - Matthewn1999

God is the ultimate and sovereign judge for sin. Homosexuality is sin by His order; it is not decided by public opinion or deceived/false clergy. Changing societies do not dictate God's standards. Sin is defined by God for us in the Bible. It is the source for what God says is holy and righteous or sin and abomination. Hebrews 13:8 states that God is the same yesterday, today, and forever; he does not “go with the flow."

We like to believe we have progressed as a society beyond the point of no longer discriminating based on things people cannot control such as race, gender, handicap, and so on. And while you can argue this is not universal, at least in an institutionalized sense, we allow everyone of age to vote, be gainfully employed, and generally enjoy the same rights and protections as everyone else.

But we do have institutionalized discrimination against gay people. In some countries, gay people are restricted from getting married or appreciating other benefits traditionally afforded to qualified straight couples such as tax incentives, insurance coverage, and inheritance. In others, being gay is an outright crime punishable by death.

In order to continue with these practices, which many people are certainly in favor of doing, while not regressing to past years where we discriminated based on innate characteristics, we have to treat being gay is a choice.

2 They need to reinforce their faith in God

yep

God is the all knowing, all powerful, creator of the universe and everything in it. God is loving, kind, and created man in his own image. If you believe that, and you believe that homosexuality is unnatural or wrong, then you have some dissonance that needs to be resolved.

In order to do so, you have a few choices. You can change your thinking to believe that God is not all powerful. You can believe that God is not all loving. Or you can choose to believe that people choose to be gay and take God out of it.

Of course, there is another option people rarely seem to consider other than deciding that maybe being gay isn't bad after all. It's an option people gravitate to any other times when the image of God and the way of the world are at odds. But, you almost never hear people say "the Lord works in mysterious ways" or "who are we to question the will of God" when talking about homosexuality. Instead, they prefer to whip out these quotes when their loving, omnipotent God ...more

It says clearly in the Bible multiple times that being gay is wrong and an abomination. It's not the way God made people to be, He made woman for man so they can make a baby and everything in the world would be balanced. Christians don't hate gays, I'm a Christian and I love everybody, and I don't treat anybody differently from one another. That's the biggest misunderstanding is gays think we hate them when we don't. We state our opinions, because as Christians we want everyone to go to Heaven and nobody left behind. Yes, we will follow the Bible and our beliefs and say it's wrong, but we don't hate anyone or anybody.

I have a friend who says that being gay needs to be fought against everyday and is a temptation that must be avoided.

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3 They need someone to blame

People who believe that being gay is a choice almost always also share a secondary belief, that being gay is less desirable, wrong, or sinful. So who is to blame for this sin?

If you consider something to be a sin, then you need to be able to blame the sinner. If you believe being gay to be a choice, then you can blame the person. If you believe it to be something they are born with, then you have to blame nature or God. And then you have the paradox of a perfect being acting sinful.

4 They need hope that being gay can be fixed

I'm broken already. I don't need to be fixed. - Pegasister12

In many places in the world, acceptance of homosexuality is on the rise. That said, gay people almost universally will face greater obstacles than their straight counterparts.

Regardless of your stance on homosexuality, having a son, daughter, friend, or family member come out will be bitter sweet. On one hand, there is the relief that they will be able to be themselves and live their lives in the open without the lingering fear of being found out. On the other hand, you know the ignorance and the hatred they will face. It's little wonder people hold on to hope that their loved one, or even themselves, can be changed to be "normal".

Being Gay is fine. Its like you didn't get any ketchup on your cheeseburger but your fine without it.

5 They need to believe they aren't gay

If you don't want to be homosexual, for any number of reasons, then it makes sense to believe there is really no such thing as being gay. And essentially that's what you believe if you think being homosexual is a choice. There are no homosexual people, there are only straight people acting gay.

If you don't want to be gay, for any number of reasons, then it makes sense to believe there is really no such thing as being gay. And essentially that's what you believe if you think being gay is a choice. There are no gay people, there are only straight people acting gay.

This can be of comfort if you fear you might have homosexual tendencies because you can simply become straight by playing the part.

6 Because they are brought up to believe that it's a choice

Scientific " studies " ( not exact proof ) have shown that everybody " is " born gay. Only when the " sexual hormones " are developing more in teen years ( this together with upbringing, circumstances around you etc... ) differences will occur in the brains ( and NOT in the DNA structure! DNA is a transfer from generation to generation. It doesn't change. Testing of DNA will always show your origins. ). If it was a difference in the DNA we would be able with the new techniques in changing some structures of the DNA also be able to change the so-called difference between gay and not gay people. We can't, wich proves that DNA or genetics has nothing to do with it. It's a choise but not in the sense of a " own will " choise. It's a choise because of the sex hormones balance secreted in very small quantities into the bloodstream by an endocrine gland or a specialized nerve cell wich regulates the function of the Amine-hormones in our brains. The only topic about this is to concider of ...more

7 Because they have brain damage

Yes. *sarcasm* Flippity flacking fwack crack jacks, wow this is a homophobic list. Did you choose to be straight? No, you didn't. Just like we didn't choose to be gay. - The_Violist

8 They need to reinforce their belief in the Bible

The Bible states that being gay is a sin. Ask anyone outside picketing in defense of traditional marriage. And as stated before, God made man. And since God cannot commit a sin, it must be the man. Otherwise, the Bible has yet another hole critics can point to.

So, for some reason (likely related to other items on this list), people are willing to concede that many of the concepts endorsed by the Bible such as slavery, stoning, and capital punishment are either dated or not intended to be literal, this one sticking point is absolutely absolute.

9 They need to protect the sanctity of their own marriage V 1 Comment
10 They choose to believe a religious authority

Religion and faith are powerful things. Sometimes no matter how much research you put in front of people and no matter how many degrees have been earned by the people conducting the research, you simply cannot trump the "because I said so" argument of an authority figure.

The Contenders

11 Because they are uneducated
12 Because they think vaccines cause homosexuality
13 Because it goes against their religious teachings

Many Christians only support the idea that homosexuality is a choice because its what their church preaches and homosexuality is a sin therefore you can repent from sin and therefore its just someone's choice not someone's instinct - Nitro_King

14 Because they watch fox news
15 Because of five generations of inbreeding
16 Because they are afraid of things they don't understand
17 Because they are afraid of change
18 Because they think it is a vast conspiracy to create a world government
19 Because someone of the opposite sex they are attracted to turns out to be gay
20 Because they think Hitler was gay
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