Top Ten Relationship Red Flags
No one is perfect, we all know this, but there are some people who are more imperfect than others!
The following list is made up of some of the biggest "Red Flags" to spot in all your relationships, and maybe it can also help you identify some of your own problems!
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When They are Non-Apologetic
Again, no one is perfect, yet if someone is not willing to admit that and won't even think about apologizing when they do something wrong, this is the biggest red flag in a relationship. This shows that the person not only has a problem with being humble, but it also indicates that there are far more problems with the individual.
This could include a troubling past they never got over, being overly controlling because they believe they are always right, or having self-esteem issues they constantly try to mask.
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When They are an Emotional Wreck
As a wise man once said, "A fool expresses all of their emotions while a wise one masters their emotions." An individual who is not able to control their emotions, especially negative emotions, is a gigantic red flag for any relationship. If they haven't learned how to control their emotions by the time they became an adult, they likely never will later on in life.
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When You Have to Walk on Eggshells with Your Partner
In any relationship, you should strive to show your true colors and allow the other person to also show their true selves. All successful relationships are built upon good communication and common interests or goals.
Yet when you have to walk on eggshells around this person, focusing more on saying the right thing at the right time than building an actual relationship, this is a big red flag. This is an even bigger red flag if the other person is allowed to say and do whatever they want while they put you on a leash.
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When They are Overweight
While this is definitely a shallow reason, both men and women agree that being overweight or obese is a deal-breaker for relationships. Overweight or obese people are likely lazy in numerous aspects of their life, eat too much (which costs a lot of money), and are far more likely to deny their own reality instead of accepting and dealing with their problems.
Of course, there are cases where people became overweight or obese as a result of a health problem, but that health problem in and of itself is also something no one really wants to deal with.
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When They Don't Have the Same Religious or Political Perspectives
This isn't to say that good relationships can't come out of two or more individuals who have different religious and political perspectives. However, the vast majority of the time, having different perspectives on these two important matters will catch up with your relationship eventually.
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When They are Dating for the Sake of Dating
This is far more common with teenagers than with adults, but it can still happen with adults as well.
There are cases where the other person is dating just for the sake of dating, and this can be for a couple of reasons. One of the most common reasons (especially among teenagers) is to keep up with social expectations. Other petty reasons include dating the person just because you find them attractive, or because the physical aspect of the relationship gives you an immense "high."
Yet an even bigger problem could be that the other person is dating to run away from their own problems (like the ones listed above) and is trying to find someone, anyone, who will love them despite the problems they don't want to admit or fix.
Either way, it is best to make sure that your partner is in the relationship for you and not for anyone or anything else.
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When They are Incredibly High or Low Maintenance
Does your partner only wear the most expensive, in-fashion clothes and accessories? Do they spend hours at the gym or doing their makeup? Do they expect you to be able to pay for or accept this lifestyle of theirs? Then get out of there because this is a big red flag!
The same is true in the opposite case, when your partner doesn't even bother to take care of themselves or wear proper clothes.
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When They Have Incredibly High Expectations of You
Once again, no one is perfect! Yet if your partner expects you to be perfect all the time and check off their entire list of the "must-have" qualities in a partner, then you best get out!
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When They Talk About the Long-Term Way Too Early
If your partner is already discussing meeting each other's parents, or even what you're going to name your kids, within the first month of the relationship, then Houston, we have a problem!
Similar to having high expectations, talking about the long-term way too early shows that they have self-esteem issues and false expectations of you which you won't be able to fulfill. The person is incredibly unrealistic and obviously not ready for a "real" relationship.
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When You Two Have Different Intelligence Levels
If all the other person talks about is drama among her friends like some sort of valley girl, or if you have a hard time keeping up with their intelligent conversations, then that's a pretty big problem. Not having similar levels of intelligence typically means that you two won't be able to communicate as effectively and won't be able to build a relationship based on commonalities.
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When They are a Single Parent
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When They Blackmail You
Why blackmail a spouse, partner, husband, or wife? This isn't SNL.
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When They’re Overly Argumentative
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When They Constantly Lie and Make Excuses
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When You End Up with Negative Feelings After Talking to Them
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When They're Easily Offended
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When They Get Angry When They are Told No
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When They Have Unjustified Debt
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When They Smoke, Use Drugs or Drink Excessively
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When They are Overly Nosy
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When They Have an Unhealthy BMI
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When They're Attention Hungry
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When They Cuss Too Much
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When They Obsess About an Ex Partner
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When They Have Children Out of Wedlock
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When They Engage in Casual Sex
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When They Have Tattoos or Piercings